TiredOfWaiting Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 I have not posted since the end of 2005. I have started a new job, and my ex-MM and I have had very limited contact, very terse, very little emotion from his side. His D was final in Sep 2005, yet he is still living at the family home 90% of the time, the balance in a room on his Dad's property. Most of the contact is via email, and have seen him a handful of times in 3 months. He came to see me on my birthday in December, and on Christmas Day, but not much else. I have also found out that he has had a subsequent sexual relationship with some other woman, and maybe she is not the only one. He seems to waver between quite enjoying his single carefree status, and then when I least expect it, will drop me a mail asking me if I see a future with him. His ex W also emails occassionally, trying to ascertain the status quo of our relationship, as he is driving her crazy by not moving out. This is all very unsettling and confusing and I feel as if I am STILL in limbo, actually lets be honest - I AM! I have male friends but do not allow anything to progress due to (a) guilt (b) guilt and © guilt, that ex-MM lost all he had, maybe he DID want to be with me (? not so sure anymore) and I am sure he would feel some hurt if he saw me with another man. Some days the pain I feel is so intense, at the loss of a love that was so real and passionate. I gave him 4 years of my life, for what? Other days I dont feel much at all. Is it time to let this go once and for all?
Ladylay Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 I have not posted since the end of 2005. I have started a new job, and my ex-MM and I have had very limited contact, very terse, very little emotion from his side. His D was final in Sep 2005, yet he is still living at the family home 90% of the time, the balance in a room on his Dad's property. Most of the contact is via email, and have seen him a handful of times in 3 months. He came to see me on my birthday in December, and on Christmas Day, but not much else. I have also found out that he has had a subsequent sexual relationship with some other woman, and maybe she is not the only one. He seems to waver between quite enjoying his single carefree status, and then when I least expect it, will drop me a mail asking me if I see a future with him. His ex W also emails occassionally, trying to ascertain the status quo of our relationship, as he is driving her crazy by not moving out. This is all very unsettling and confusing and I feel as if I am STILL in limbo, actually lets be honest - I AM! I have male friends but do not allow anything to progress due to (a) guilt (b) guilt and © guilt, that ex-MM lost all he had, maybe he DID want to be with me (? not so sure anymore) and I am sure he would feel some hurt if he saw me with another man. Some days the pain I feel is so intense, at the loss of a love that was so real and passionate. I gave him 4 years of my life, for what? Other days I dont feel much at all. Is it time to let this go once and for all? Why arnt you living together? I presume he left his wife for you
TiredOfWaiting Posted March 8, 2006 Posted March 8, 2006 Why arnt you living together? I presume he left his wife for you No he did not leave his W. She divorced him after almost a year of procrastination, and he could never give a straight YES/NO answer. He has consistently refused to leave the home. He never made me any promises whatsoever, and when we did speak (albeit hypothetically), we always agreed that he would first stay on his own for a short period, and then we would get a place together. The closer it got to his divorce date, the colder his feet became and the more he distanced himself from me.
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