monaliza Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 Hi all Im new to this site well I ve been reading a lot lately but never posted before.SO HERE IS MY SITUATION.... My bf keeps on lying ot me on random things ....N it irritates me i confronted him once too many times but he never seems to be changing. Well we've been dating for 7 monthes now.I was having some gut feelings that something was up bout 2 monthes into our relationship so I break into his email.Then i saw that he ws still in contact with his ex.Better yet he was asking her to take him back n that he loves her.I asked him if he still talkes to his exs n he told me once in a while.Then i confronted him.well everyone deserves second chances so i gave em a asecond chance. But he keep talkin ot her that he wants to c her n that he want to spend her bday with her n all. After a while on vday he send his other ex who is out of town flowers n told me that she was his cuz.I f there is nothing going on b/n em why would he lie abou it? He almost talks everyday with his outer ex other than the two I mentioned.He claims that they are friends but she telles him that she love em n all.n he lied abou ther being his cuz's girl when I once saw em talkin to her on msn .Then she was telling him to call her n that she loved em . And on his my space page he has posted his exs comment that she loves him n that they will make it through it all.Now how is that friendship. Ive caught em lying to me once too many times n now I dont even know if I could trust him anymore.I love him trully .But if I continue in this relationship I know I'll be naieve.I believe he loves me too.But I dont c why he has to lie to me n hurt me so bad.
blind_otter Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 If you think that he really loves you, then you seriously need to re-think what a loving expression of intimacy is.
Author monaliza Posted March 6, 2006 Author Posted March 6, 2006 I know I love him dearly n would never lie to em bout anything.I dont get him at all.And I've let him know that I am not ok with him keeping in random contact with his exs.N he toldme he doesnt hurt their feelings by ingnoring them.But whos feelings are important his exs or mine? So last nite he told me that he've told his ex that he talkes to almost twice a day that they should keep less contact n she flipped out.N after a while he called n ask me if he could cll her n see how she is taking this? What the hell?
RecordProducer Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 I believe he loves me too.But I dont c why he has to lie to me n hurt me so bad.If I were you, I would be worried about him wanting to get back with his ex. He either loves you both or loves HER, but she doesn't want to take him back, which makes you his transitional girl (someone who helps him get over his ex). If he loved you, he wouldn't have been this disrespectful toward you and ask his ex to take him back behind your back. This is the reality and you may choose to dump him or be number two in his heart. He may get over her eventually and fall in love with you, but believe me, if he were in love with you now, he wouldn't be doing these things to you. Regarding his lies... of course, he lied to you. What did you expect? That he'd tell you that he asked his ex to take him back but she said 'no'?
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