aesteel5 Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 I made the wrong choice, when I asked a girl out I didn't really know. Now we've been together 3 1/2 years and I love her. And she loves me, even though she's 500 miles away. But she has no ambition or self-esteem. And I don't have the love, time or energy to push her onward. And I don't love the little things she does, I hate them. I made the wrong choice, asking out a girl I wouldn't have dated if I had known her for a year. But now I love her, and I don't know what to do. --------------- I suppose that's all a rather nice way of saying that I had a good first impression of a girl and I acted on it, but then her own struggle with depression is not something I want to have to live with permanently in marriage. I'm 22, just starting working. She's starting grad school, and for the next 4 months we will continue to be "long distance" (it's been 5 months so far..) and things all look like they will be turning out how we both dreamed, but I feel like her pessimism and depression will never go away. It sure sucks to be unhappy with someone because of them frequently feeling worthless. Cyclical feelings of inadequacy FTL "for the lose".
BlahBlahQueen Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 I think you're being hard on yourself for being dissatisfied with her mood disorders. I think you have every right not to want a relationship with a chronically depressed partner. If you love her as you say you do, convince her to get therapy, and medication if needed. This is for her own good and for the good of your relationship.
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