Guest Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 Here is my short story. I just moved to DC into a great apartment and started a great job. I only knew one person in the area and had been introduced to a few others through my buddy. Anyway, I went out on my own one day to a museum to see what the city had to offer and ran into a girl that worked there. Boy was she giving me the eye and so I started talking her and ask her for her number to get together. I called her later and set up a date. I took her out on a romantic date, dinner, christmas tree, drinks at a hot spot and decided to take her back to my apartment. We then had sex. Afterwards, we felt like we really connected intellectually and starting spending more time with one another. My sister came to town and we went out and my sister said that she seemed to really like me. Eventually she went home for christmas and so did I. She called me every night during that time. We would talk for an hour or so. At one point she put me on the phone with her mother and father..for me to say hello...When she got back I picked her up from the airport and she brought me a small gift. But something felt different, she was a bit more reluctant to get together. She said she was studying for her GREs and that she needed to concentrate and that we will have spend more time after the test. Fair enough. Well she told me after that she was thinking about me and all and that she realized that she missed over the break and so i was happy about that..but still she was distant I think.. Anyway, I got a bad vibe about her in general. I didn't listen to it, she reminded me of my ex girlfriend and I was definately a bit weary of her. Whenever she was with me she wanted to hold my hand or kiss me. It was like a compulsion of hers. Also, she loved having sex too. When I would tryh to talk to her about things, she would seduce me into having sex with her. It seemed she avoid certain topics. She mentioned she was avoiding something but I didn't want to ask what she was avoiding. A one point she told me that she was no longer dating anyone but me. At another point she asked me if I was with anyone else while we were together. She told me she was taking antidepressants. I started to feel untrusting of her and feeling used by her. I eventually dumped her because I felt she didn't want a real relationship and that there was no point in continuing a friends with benifits relationship because they are fun but rather shallow and risky. She is 23 going to be 24 soon. A month after I broke up with her I asked her to lunch and confessed that I missed her and wanted to work on building the relationship and taking slow. She didn't want to. Although she agree to met with me and be friends she said she didn't want to be remantically invovled and that she wasn't ready to be anyones gf. That she wanted her freedom. I fear that I let myself get attached to her and all along in the back of my mind knowing that it wasn't right. Now I am left with the pining and what ifs she changes her mind... I entered into therapy to work through this. Does this story sound familiar at all to anyone? COuld I have pushed to soon?
jerbear Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 Sounds like it was a FWB, friends with benefits from the start. One of your two MAY have "fallen" and she sensed it, then backed away.
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