Bryan1108 Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 Hi. This may be kind of long. Sorry about that. I decided last year that I didn't want to date anymore. I realize that trying to lump several million people into a stereotype will never work but, romantically, I have had nothing but negative experiences with women. Eventually, I realized that I was only ever happy when I was on my own. It hasn't always been easy. Several friends and family members felt that it was their duty to "help" me by setting up several "chance meetings" with different women. For awhile, I couldn't be invited over without finding that some woman just happened to drop by on the same day. Things got even worse when the women at the office found out and decided that I was a challenge or something. This was annoying but not really a problem. It wasn't even tempting really. The problem came when my friend, Koishi became interested. I don't want to date her but we have several social and professional ties and I don't want to offend her. She knows that I was into her before deciding that I was done with women. My big hang up is that I have always been sort of a geek. Women have never really been interested in me. It hasn't really been hard until now refusing the women that I get set up with or the office women. I just bluntly tell them that I am not interested. Sadly, they all seem offended. I guess I am not good at hiding the fact that I would rather shoot myself in the foot then have lunch with them. I don't want to offend Koishi though. how do you tell someone that you are not even a little interested anymore without losing their friendship?
Guest Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 I don't think that there is any way you can go about this that won't end in her getting hurt, but if she is your friend then she should know and understand your reasons for not wanting to be involved with her. just be completly honest, don't mess her around, let her know where she stands and what her friendship truely means to you. her ego might be bruised for a while but the sooner you do it the sooner you'll both get over it. (Either that or tell her your gay)
Author Bryan1108 Posted March 6, 2006 Author Posted March 6, 2006 I told her today and she got offended and hurt. People at work are upset with me for hurting such a nice girl. Sheesh.
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