Owl Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 I mean this as constructive, so I do hope you take it that way. 1. Change your phone numbers/email addresses/everything he could use to contact you if he 'broke down' again. -This will help keep NC in place...and when you change those accounts, delete his addresses from your records...so that it isn't as easy for you to slip and contact him. 2. Take ACTIVE measures to ensure that you no longer 'see' him in any environment. Again, it might not be 'fair' to you, but it's one way that you can start to break the cycle of addiction. 3. Find other outlets for your energy...other ways to spend the time/energy you used to spend on/with him. -Start going to the gym, taking walks, resume an old hobby or find a new one. Try to fill your time so that you're not faced with that 'void' where he was in your life. Physical activity here is AWESOME...do something that wears you out so completely that you can't lay in bed thinking about things...so that you're out as soon as you hit the pillow! 4. Turn to your friends...or make new ones. -Having a 'support system' helps deal with ANY crisis. If you've got some close female friends (or family) that you can turn to...ones that can help you 'get through' this, that would be great. Friends that can go WITH you on your new hobbies/gym/walks/whatever. 5. Start a journal/diary. -Write a little about how you're feeling everyday. When you get the urge to contact him...write in your journal instead. And then go back and re-read things every week...you'll be amazed at how much you'll change over time. Just a suggestion on a few coping strategies. Hope they help!
Author Walking away Posted March 9, 2006 Author Posted March 9, 2006 Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am starting to fall apart....and I need desperately to keep my head above water. I appreciate the time you are taking to help me. Thank you again.
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