guurant Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 Hey, guys, I'd appreciate some advice with a little problem. I don't know whether to put this in "breaking up" or "friendship", so sorry if I put this in the wrong forum. Well, I'm a senior in high school and here's my situation. My ex-girlfriend and I just broke up a month ago (because of family reasons). Yeah, yeah, I know I'm only in high school, but she's the only girl that I've said "I love you" to (and she said it back about a week or so after we broke up). Not only were me and her in a relationship, we are best friends. After we broke up, we still tried to hang out together like before. It was hard, we had some fights (and are having one right now, but I guess that's just a part of the transition from being together to not being together without NC), but we manage to not break contact with each other because of how much we care about each other.... so prom is coming up in about 2 months. I want to go with her. It would mean so much to me because I would go with a girl I care so much about. But the thing is, she doesn't want to go because she wants to go only her senior year (she's a junior). I believe in the phrase "actions speak louder than words". She says she loves me, but doesn't want to go to prom with me because she only wants to go her senior year? Are you kidding me? So that is more important? I told her that as a final decision if she does or doesn't want to go with me, she needs to tell me. As I think about it, it really says a lot about her as a person. It kind of irks me just thinking about it. If she makes the decision to not go with me, I'm thinking of just breaking contact and dropping her from my life. It would really hurt, because we are best friends (that as far as I know, still have feelings for each other), but that may be the best thing to do. But I guess my question is, what would you do in this situation? Thanks
DisKoDucK Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 That's an interesting situation, I'm sorry you are feeling the way you do. I think you did the right thing by asking her to be honest with you. I know that it might look like she is just "saying" she only wants to go her senior year because she doesn't want to go, but it might be the truth as well. My point is, just because you don't think it should be that big of a deal to go your junior year doesn't mean she should think it's no big deal. But of course you know her best and you know if she is the type of person who really makes a big deal out of these types of things. As far as what I'd do, if I were you, and I was committed to trying to staying friends, then I wouldn't just break contact off for that reason. That being said, I would break contact if we were breaking up just because it would be easier to move on. You can meet other people and not feel guilty about telling her, and you dont' have to torture yourself about that day when she finally says, "i've met someone". My umm maybe soon to be ex (re: "giving space?" post) are best friends also, and I'm scared to lose her as that, but I know that for my mental well being, I need to do whatever I can to move on with my life, and that would probably mean breaking contact for a little while.
magda Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 Is it possible that she can't afford it? Prom can be an expensive affair.
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