Lost Soul Posted March 4, 2006 Posted March 4, 2006 My fiance of a year has just said that she wants a break from me. We have been together almost 2 years and everything had been going great. She is almost 20 and I'm 24. I'm the only one she's loved and she's the only one I've loved. I have no doubts that she is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with and she had been saying the same thing all along. She was so excited about us living together, getting married, and starting a family. Just recently she started a new job and since then she's become less dependent on me. She used to be so needy and need me there with here as much as possible. I noticed she slowly started needing me less and now she says we need to take a break. She said that she still loves me but she's not sure if she's ready to get married yet. She said she's never really gotten a chance to see what it's like to be on her own. She said she doesn't want to hurt me but she doesn't know what else to do. She can't help the way she feels. I've planned my whole future around us. I never would've proposed if I had any doubts about us. She says she's confused and needs a little time to sort out her thoughts and feelings. She said that she thinks if she spends a little time away from me she will realize how much she really needs me and come back. She said she doesn't want to go out with other guys but she won't rule it out and she wants me to do the same. She said if it was "true love" then we would get through this and be back together. She basically said that she thinks she will come back. I told her I would give her her space. There's really nothing else to do. What else should I do? How long could this last? How long should I wait? Is she being honest with me? Is there really a good chance we will get back together? Help me please!
BetterKarma Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 I'm so sorry to hear about your pain. I know I am going to say something that you probably heard already so here goes: You two are still very young. Your fiance is finally getting a taste of adult independance and is wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. It's much better for her to do this now than for her to realize it after years of marriage and with children. Give her space, let her live her life and you should too. She may or may not come back to you but you shouldn't wait either. Go out and enjoy life too.
gfto Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 How long should I wait? You shouldn't wait at all. Keep in mind, she's only 20. That's very very young. But, I'm sorry to say, the odds of her coming back are slim to none. I'd focus on finding a new girlfriend.
Ariadne Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 Hi, For what I've read... It seems like she may have a crush on someone she works with It's a horrible situation yours, boy........... Try to get her to open up more if you can, but you may not like what you'll hear. Still, I think that you should be able to discuss everything with your partner. Good luck, Ariadne
tikigods Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 I think that you need to let her go and find her own path. She is only 20, and if you have been together for two years that means you meet her at 18, between 18-25 is really a huge time in ANYONE's life to really discover who they are and what their place in the world is. Now while I hate to be a naysayer right now I think you should live like she won't be coming back. Let you both get some more expereiences and then maybe if things turn around then you can get together and get married. But I don't see that happening anytime soon
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