fallenheart45 Posted March 4, 2006 Posted March 4, 2006 OK Ok OK So I was on line just now talking to a friend. The ex- Im's me. Let me note I haven't talked to her in 2 weeks. She IM'S and just says... "are you ignoring me =)" I don't respond....I can't it just too hard. Then 5 min's later she says.. "Ok fine then! be that way" ................ SOB! This sux...I can't talk to her its too hard. I can't even tell her that I can' talk to her beacause its just to hard to tell her that in the first place! WTF is wrong with me! Now she thinks I 'm a creep!!!! Either that..Or I have her pondering why I dont' talk to her..maybe its bothering her..I don't know. But then again..why doest she care?
Ariadne Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 OK OK you, "are you ignoring me =)" "Ok fine then! be that way" Tell her you can talk to her only if she sks your dk first. That will stop her. Then if she continues, tell her that you loooover her, that you waaant her that you want to seeeee her and all that crap. Don't be Mr. Good friend, you know you can't. So if she calls you tell her what you really want. Ok, my take, Ariadne
dr strangelove Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 Read pretty much anything I have posted and see what happens when you ignore them... s.l.,
Dinnj1 Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 two weeks ain't nothin' (for her).... BUT!, it's obviously eatin' her alive that you're not whinin' pinin' houndin' for her..... Only a matter of time before she gets relentless. Been there. Get yourself prepared... Turn off all phones... computers, shut all windows and lock the doors... ) "are you ignoring me =)" = trying to be sweet and break the ice... "Ok fine then! be that way" = apparently, THIS type of attitude with you has worked before for her... she's just trying to get a reaction outta you... mostly likely to fulfill her needs.
Author fallenheart45 Posted March 7, 2006 Author Posted March 7, 2006 once again I am online...and I'M FREAKING AWAY..yet she still IM'S ME. She says.. "your doing a reall good job of ingoring me. I just want to see how you are and I hope everything is going great for you. I hope lifting is treating you good. But if you don't want to talk just tell me. Its that simple! Just tell me that I am bothering you and I won't try anymore." I respond back like 3 hours later... "sorry, didn' t know I was ignoring you, lol! I"m doing great, your not bothering me, talk any time" Then I signed off! JUST STUPID. I don't make contact, yet she still wants to know why I don't talk to her...wtf! Why IN THE HELL DON'T YOU THINK I DON'T f*UCKING TALKING TO YOU!!!!!!
JosiePosie Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 Sheesh...block her already. You are the one who keeps inviting this crap into your life. Do something about it.
Author fallenheart45 Posted March 7, 2006 Author Posted March 7, 2006 wtf... as I SEE IT I shouldn't have to cahnge my actions in my life. I don't let her get the best of me. I 'm not changing becasue of her I don't call her, e-mal, text her, show up at her doorstep, 2 way her, IM her..NOTHING. I never bring us up, I never talk about us, I never am the one that breaks NC.....so tell me, how in da FU*CK is it my fault?
littlekitty Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 "sorry, didn' t know I was ignoring you, lol! I"m doing great, your not bothering me, talk any time" You did just break NC by IMing back!! Silly boy!! You were ignoring her, quite rightly. You don't want to talk to her, and she IS bothering you. If you really HAD to respond it should have been to say that you don't wish to talk to her any longer. Block her now. Then get back on the NC train and start rebuilding your life.
Author fallenheart45 Posted March 7, 2006 Author Posted March 7, 2006 kitty, true I did...but she broke it like 10 times since the break up. I"m doing pretty good. Even though I still think and dream about her. I never break NC. she breaks it first ....
littlekitty Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 kitty, true I did...but she broke it like 10 times since the break up. I"m doing pretty good. Even though I still think and dream about her. I never break NC. she breaks it first .... I totally get that. It's really hard when they still tug at the heart strings and you're trying desperately to let go. I have been there too. I think you have to try to remain NC even when she breaks it. Provided there is no unresolved issues like children or property to be discussed, you have every option to just ignore, ignore and ignore. I know it doesn't stop her contacting you, and she may well do so more the more you ignore her. That's why i suggest blocking her so you don't have to have it shoved in your face all the time.... Is there a reason you don't want to block her? Are you having trouble taking that last step to sever the ties? If you want to do NC that's fine, but you have to stick to some rules to make it most effective and not responding to her messages is part of that. You're a nice, good looking guy.... things will get better!!
Author fallenheart45 Posted March 7, 2006 Author Posted March 7, 2006 Thanks kitty! =) Yeah I belive things will get better also. I just hate it how she knows she hurts me, yet you would think and understand why I don't talk to her becuase it hurts to much. yet when I decide not to talk to her, she gets all up set and thinks I don't want to talk. Even though she knows its nothing more than a freindly talk. AND I HAVE ALL READY TOLD HER I CAN'T JUST BE FRIENDS WITH HER! SO HARDDD!!
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