RetroMan Posted March 4, 2006 Posted March 4, 2006 ...and for the first time since we've broken up, I don't feel like I've gone back to 'square one'. The last couple of times she's visited, I've always felt very empty afterwards and a bit desperate...the last time being the worst. The last time it was like a final realisation that we're not getting back together so it hit me quite hard. But this time we went to a pub, then slightly further afield to a club where we didn't stay for long. Although I still fancy her (and deep down I still love her too but I think I always will) I didn't feel the overwhelming urge to just grab her and kiss her like old times. It was a little awkward conversation wise, for me anyway. I don't feel like we have a huge amount in common anymore but we still had a nice chat. At the end of the night I popped back to hers to order a cab and I actually did it, and came home, without feeling the need to try and persuade her to let me stay for "one more night" or anything. Do you think this shows that wounds are healing more for me now? I felt quite strong and in control. It might be partly to do with this other girl that I'm interested in, so I'm not feeling like my ex is my only option right now. As for this other girl (see thread "Are instincts/vibes accurate?"), I got to speak to her a little more in depth at work the other day, and asked her a bit more about this long distance boyfriend that I suspected she had. I asked her how it was going and she said ok, but added that "it was more his idea to get back together than mine". She doesn't seem overly thrilled about the situation she's in and, with all of these little vibes I've been picking up, there isn't any harm in expressing my interest is there? I was thinking of saying that I think she's really nice and that if she wanted to, she should let me know if her situation changes at all? That's ok isn't it?
Author RetroMan Posted March 5, 2006 Author Posted March 5, 2006 Hmm. Well, I was chatting to this girl I'm interested in again today and we were talking about music and stuff...we both like indie music so I mentioned this indie club on Tuesday nights in London that I've always meant to go to but never got round to. She replied by saying that she's never really gone clubbing in London and also said that she'd go. I didn't ask her there and then, but just as she was on her way home I said to her "Seeya. Oh yeah, by the way, if your ever bored on a Tuesday night gimme a call if you want to go to that place?"...expecting her to say "oh I don't have your number" and for me to then give to her but all I got was "Oh yeah, cool. Seeya". Hmm. I'm wondering if the "anything less than a definite yes means a no" rule applies here. It could either be... a) She isn't actually interested after all and I've misread things. b) She's nervous about the fact that I'm such close friends with the guy she slept with a couple of months ago and is worried about causing friction since he tries to flirt with her...or that I'm not serious about her either. c) She's got this long-distance boyfriend (who she gave me the impression she wasn't too happy with). Do you think by saying what I said that I expressed enough interest? If so, I'll just leave it at that and wait for her. Whaddya reckon guys? Give me some thoughts.
Author RetroMan Posted March 5, 2006 Author Posted March 5, 2006 By the way, just posted the above post in a new thread cos I thought the title of this one wasn't relevant enough. ^^^
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