iamtrying Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 to keep a long story short, my xMM did tell the wife and kids that he wanted to divorce but when it came to the crunch, he cant do it and asked me for more time. really tired from the back and forth with MM and sent the following email, MM, Pls .... Don’t do this anymore. You dragging this on will only show me what kind of person you are. You are really not the kind of person I thought you are. Its now very clear to me. You simply don’t care enough about everybody involve (your kids, your wife, me) to spare them the pain that everybody is going through. You simply don’t love anyone enough. You don’t love your kids or wife enough to end things with me. You don’t love me enough to end things with your wife. I am really having doubts that you are the kind of person I want to spend the rest of my life with . Thanks iamtrying i followed that up by telling him i will be barring his email address by the end of the day. His response was there is no need to bar him and he wont be bothering me anymore. Half an hour later, another emailed floated in, saying that he is sorry for letting me down and goodbye. I had lots of emotional emails back from him when i try to leave him from him before and they always manage to drag me back in. I know it is for the best that he did not do that again but it really hit me like a ton of bricks. just needed to vent here and try to not falter in my determination this time round.
Blind Illusion Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 Good luck with this. I have always noticed that as you try and distant yourself, it is at that point when the MM (or anyone, really) tries to reel you back in. They say all the "right things" and start being extra-attentive. All the best, though.
lalaland Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 I am SO proud of you! Mean every word you say! But, you dont mean it, otherwise you would have blocked him right after you sent hm the email so he could not respond. You know what, this guy is a loser. Why do you want him? If you do get him, you will be the wife, then guess what? A few years he will be doing the same thing to you! The best advice I could give is this. Dont contact him again. Block him from your email, take his number out of his phone, and DONT dont answer if he calls! Get together with some girlfriends, spend the day at the mall shopping, getting hair cut, you know, stuff to make you feel good. Then, go out that night with your girls, and look for a man no no ring on his left finger! You are all set! There are SO many fish in the sea. Dont lower yourself to a bottom feeding lobster. Just think of how good YOU will feel when YOU end the affair. YOU wont be the one feeling rejected. What better revenge.
lizad Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 I couldn't agree more....I don't think all MM have bad intentions, I just think they are extemely selfish not always b/c they want their cake and eat it too but it is a huge thing to divorce and break up a family especially when kids are involved...then there is the financial part of a divorce......also a lot of time the wife is very entrenched with his family and he doesnt want to be the bad one and turn out to be the "outsider"... it's just easier to stay where they are b/c it's usually not as bas as they claim it to be......... many MW are in the same spot......... if you are single, you need to find someone who is available to give all of himself to you.youy deserve that. unfortunately easier said than done..... i am MW having an A with a married man for the past two years and trying to walk away as I write this for various reasons........ try to stay strong, do not contact him, do not respond to him when he reaches out....... yes, he will try to reel you back in with his charm and what not but it will only leave you back here again and again.......... If he really means what he says, he will divorce his wife and then be free to pursue you, however, I always wonder will we the affair partner just become a replacement and have the worried that eventually they will do that to the new wife.........
Author iamtrying Posted March 6, 2006 Author Posted March 6, 2006 thanks for all the suppport .... he emailed me again on Sat the typical long email ..... seriously fighting the urge to answer the email ..... must really stay firm this time .......
Walking away Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 I am in the same boat as you. Just ended with my MM a few hours ago. Sometimes, I guess, it is best to let go..and let the cards fall where they may. For me, it was getting too painful to stay, as I am sure you can understand. Be strong, and so will I.
Author iamtrying Posted March 6, 2006 Author Posted March 6, 2006 I am in the same boat as you. Just ended with my MM a few hours ago. Sometimes, I guess, it is best to let go..and let the cards fall where they may. For me, it was getting too painful to stay, as I am sure you can understand. Be strong, and so will I. is this your first ending ? be strong yah ....... it is easy to say NC but its really difficult to do ... i know .... i tried so many times ......
Walking away Posted March 6, 2006 Posted March 6, 2006 Not even close to the first ending. Try the hundred thousandth time...I'm with ya sister...this sucks.
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