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[Mariobros]

My g/f wants to takes things very slow and she won't show affection besides hugging me. I really love her

but I'm scared to even tell her that because her last b/f told her that and she just looked at him and didn't respond to him back. she told me this before me and her got together at the time we were just friends. but now im afriad to do anything affectional stuff verbal or physical (kiss,rub,etc) and I'm afraid that If I tell her I love her she might give me a terrible response like she did him.

 

 

I don't wanna hurt our relationship so I just keep it all bottled up. I've never forced her to do something or will ever. This is all eating me up emotionaly because we don't goto the same school so I don't see her daily and when I see other couples at my school kissing and "love touches" I feel kinda left out and alone. I just don't know what to do : - (

Don't wanna hurt the relationship by trying to get more affectionate and she just pushes me away.

 

 

I'm so scared and confused, not only that but I DO sometimes get very sad and actually shed a tear because I'm getting thoughts that maybe she's not showing alot of affection because she dosen't love me back or even like me

I can't find anyway to tell her what I've been thinking I don't want her to think I'm some punk who cries alot

 

[whichwayisup]

You can't change yourself to meet her needs. She is who she is, and you are who you are. Please talk to her. Hopefully you two have a trust built up so you CAN talk. This relationship will not workout if you're scared to tell her how you feel because a possible reaction may not be good. She has to grow up and see that you are NOT her exbf, so therefore her reactions shouldn't be about HIM and their past issues.

 

Instead of asking about the affection, ask her HOW she feels about you. Then lead into the affectionate part later...

 

You could write her a letter then sit with her as she reads it. And talk together to sort this out.

 

Good luck and let us know how it goes.