alex434 Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 well let me just start off with me meeting this girl at my job. we talked for a awhile as friends her and there and i'd say not too long ago, she took it upon herself, to give me her number ( i had made no inquires about getting it ) I called her and we would talk on the phone from 2-5 hours a time ( we still do ) we flirted alot and all and eventually i ask her to go out with me, she glady replied yes and so be it she told me she "got what she wanted" Now as far as im concerned, i havent know this girl too long maybe a month, month and half at most. But from this i know a few things: - We talk every night - I see her at work at least 3 to 4 times a week - She says she misses me, (how its only been about a week since we've been going out) - she tells me she needs to see me - I already know when she is lying ( nothing serious ) - We finish eachothers sentences - We have everything in common from wanting the same career to the same food. -she offers to do everything for me, give me rides to school work, take me places now from all this i would gather that she is a really nice girl and is really interested in me, she tells me she gets nervous and shy when around me and that she just needs to get used to me. My question is, does she seem like the obsessive type? i asked her if she is the type to rush things she said no, but it depends on the circumstances. How can i ask her how she feels about me without sounding obsessive, and rushful, but i am just concerned that she might be getting a little carried away. I know she likes me and people tell me they can see us going out with eachother for a while but i wanna make sure for myself, what it is exactly that shes looking for and what she plans to do and how she feels about me. Anyones help would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
whichwayisup Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 It isn't obsessive or rushed if you ask her about her feelings for you. Be straight-up and tell her how you feel. Hopefully she'll give you the same respect back and open up to you. Not knowing what someone else feels, especially in the early stages of a possible relationship is frustrating. So, ASK her. Atleast then you'll know what's going on. - I already know when she is lying ( nothing serious ) Why would she lie? I know you said, nothing serious, but what is she lying about???
Author alex434 Posted March 4, 2006 Author Posted March 4, 2006 like when she says nothing is wrong with her or when she asks me a question and she doesnt want to feel stupid about asking it
SweptAway Posted March 4, 2006 Posted March 4, 2006 She like you. A lot. She's really into you. She misses you, needs you, gives you her number is nervous around you. What other signals do you need??! Trust me, I'm the same with the current guy I'm seeing. So nervous around him, I hate it! We discussed what we wanted though, neither of us wanted to rush things as we have both just com out of long term relationships and have other commitments. But we are really into each other and are just seeing where it is going. If something develops..great..but for now just take it easy, not get too serious, have fun, hang out when we can etc. If our situations change, we have to tell each other. As for exactly what she wants from you, you are going to have to be a grown up and talk to her about it. If you are too nervous to do that, go out for a couple of drinks to break down the barriers and start the conversation.
monkey00 Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 well let me just start off with me meeting this girl at my job. we talked for a awhile as friends her and there and i'd say not too long ago, she took it upon herself, to give me her number ( i had made no inquires about getting it ) I called her and we would talk on the phone from 2-5 hours a time ( we still do ) we flirted alot and all and eventually i ask her to go out with me, she glady replied yes and so be it she told me she "got what she wanted" Now as far as im concerned, i havent know this girl too long maybe a month, month and half at most. But from this i know a few things: - We talk every night - I see her at work at least 3 to 4 times a week - She says she misses me, (how its only been about a week since we've been going out) - she tells me she needs to see me - I already know when she is lying ( nothing serious ) - We finish eachothers sentences - We have everything in common from wanting the same career to the same food. -she offers to do everything for me, give me rides to school work, take me places now from all this i would gather that she is a really nice girl and is really interested in me, she tells me she gets nervous and shy when around me and that she just needs to get used to me. My question is, does she seem like the obsessive type? i asked her if she is the type to rush things she said no, but it depends on the circumstances. How can i ask her how she feels about me without sounding obsessive, and rushful, but i am just concerned that she might be getting a little carried away. I know she likes me and people tell me they can see us going out with eachother for a while but i wanna make sure for myself, what it is exactly that shes looking for and what she plans to do and how she feels about me. Anyones help would be greatly appreciated, thanks! Be wary of this. The last girl i was seeing for a good while presented all or most of these indications/signs. she too was nervous, and i let her know it was OK if she wanted to kiss me or whatever. Anyway all i gotta say is in the situation where she's the chaser, you have to put extra care into letting this relationship grow. Because you're putting the limit on how fast or how slow it proceeds. you can do the same with yours, let her know it's ok if she wants to (do something to you), or you can just take the iniative every time. if she's not ready yet, dont be too forceful, let her come out of the shell when she's ready. Dont for a minute be too available. Do let her miss you, do let her chase you, do compliment her, do tease her. The minute ur too available the chase will be over and things will dry very rapidly. Because letting a girl with A HIGH INTEREST go to quick escalation without much work in the way she'll get bored. it's good to be a little challenging in the beginning, but once you progress into the relationship stage thats when you become less of a challenge. However i think relationships that start off with medium interest ranging into high later on are the ones that usually lasts longer. Because the anticipation is slowly built. In the ones where you start off with extremely high interest (high anticipation), the passion can slowly just unbuild. However romance is important in all aspects...just dont be too romantic too soon. Treat this no differently than any other of your past relationships.
organic chemistry Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 - We have everything in common from wanting the same career to the same food. Gd for u, it's just great to see people fall in love. Just make sure u two have everything in common. My story was kinda like urs. I didn't know my bf for too long. We knew each other but never talked. Until we finally got a chance. We hung out for a week. We were so into each other. We talked on the phone all the time. We flirted like crazy. We DID feel like we had something in common. After 2 wks we have become bf and gf. BUT...we rushed through the whole get to know each other process too quickly...Now we have been together for 8 months and we find out we have nothing in common...we haven't decided to break up yet. But it will take a lot of effort for 2 completely different people to be together without problem... Take ur time, make sure there r things in common, esp. core values and principles.
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