sudley Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Please Help I have been in a relationship for 9 years now. We have 2 beautiful daughters together. Just recently I ended the relationship when my twin sister called me up and told me she found my boyfriend in her bed trying to (well you get the just of the situation) not only once but twice and both times she told him to go f**k himself and get away from her. I am extremely hurt I think maybe i could get over it if it wasn't with a family member but now my family hates him for doing this and so do I. I dont know if it hurts more to know that he did this or to know this is the end. I am a strong person but for him to do this to our kids is just shocking!!!!!!! He calls and says please please we can save us!!!!!! and begs for me to give him another chance but i think I would be dumb if i did. I have been with him since i was 18 and this is all i know so i am very scared and confused and really mortified. I am afraid I will fall right back in and I know that's not what i want at all right now. But I am a SUCKER when it comes to him i dont know why if its the age difference between us ( he is 10 yrs older). Someone please talk to me I haven't really told anyone I am scared to tell my mom i am afraid she will say told ya sooooooooo . I am lucky i have a really good job and stability that way but my heart is torn apart.
fooled Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 This is tough - and I'm not sure I'm qualified to help you. If he is trying to sleep with your sister, he has probably tried and/or suceeded in sleeping with other women. Maybe not - but probably. Serial cheaters don't stop cheating, even if they swear to you they'll never do it again. However, you have two children with this man. Can you raise them alone? If you have been living together for 9 years, I believe in the court's opinion you are his common law wife - and if you decide to leave him - you may be able to sue for child support. I'd check with an attorney. You need to stop listening to his words and start analyzing his actions over the past year. Anyone agree, disagree or have anything to add?
norcaldivr Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 However, you have two children with this man. Can you raise them alone? If you have been living together for 9 years, I believe in the court's opinion you are his common law wife - and if you decide to leave him - you may be able to sue for child support. I'd check with an attorney. ABSOLUTELY check with an attorney. Common law status depends on the state, most don't recognize it. Child custody/visitation/support issues can be very complex so you need professional help on this one. As does he.
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