Brianschick Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Ok, my story (short version) I slept w/ my MM years ago b/f I got married and he was married. Fast forward several years later (and two more kids for him) and he is still married and I am now married for 5 years. We started a affair in December of 2005. He has a bad work schedule (he works for police dept) so he works in eveings. When we frist started seeing each other again he would email or call or both at least a few times a week. Slowly, he has started weening those calls and emails down to maybe once a week. I have NEVER loved him but very much enjoyed him in bed. Now, suddenly I haven't heard from him in a week. I knew it would end eventually but I didn't expect this passive aggressive way of leaving me....I know he'll call again (once I have gotten used to him being gone) but right now I am actually offended. Can someone pleae remind me again how stupid it is to get involved with MM?!!
scarletletter Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 I dont' think I am the person to tell you how stupid it is because I am doing the same thing. Just want to warn you that you will get a sh*t load of answers to that request and I hope you are ready for them. They can be pretty harsh at times. Don't be so hard on yourself...maybe something has come up. Men just don't think like women. They don't think they are supposed to communicate unless they want something. Good luck with the advice that you are about to get on here.
Author Brianschick Posted March 2, 2006 Author Posted March 2, 2006 Scarletletter, I purposely posted here knowing how ugly it could get here! I need to hear how dum I am at this point. I already know I shouldn't have even open this pandora's box but hey...what is done is done. As for the MM, sure he might be busy (he does have a wife and 4 kids) but I can't take the roller coaster ride any longer anyway.. It needs to end so I can get my head straight. I also suspect he is a serial cheater....I'm not the only chick in the lineup...
scarletletter Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Sorry that I cannot give you any ugly comments about dating a mm....however, I can tell you that you seem smart enough to know when you need to call it quits. You could be right about the serial cheating...who knows? You might even think about having yourself tested for std's.....scary thought but one worth thinking about.
newbby Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 brians chick, i know how you feel. i never actually wanted a commitment from my ex mm, and although i was in love with him the first time around, i had gotten over that by rounds 2 & 3. however, it is the absolute rudeness, that got me time and again. just completely cut off, no explanation. treating me as though i would maybe get emotional and hysterical at the loss of him (as if) and that he best just cut me off, and give me the message in that way. it is only more evidence of their cowardice, they run away from and escape every problem they are faced with. my exmm gets bailed out by his mother, every time he has a problem.
newbby Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 I also suspect he is a serial cheater....I'm not the only chick in the lineup... i also suspect this of my ex mm..... its not nice being treated as less than human. there are far more exciting things to spend time thinking about, even if not people, as i am pleasantly rediscovering at the moment. take care.
Walking away Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Brianschick and Newbby, The best revenge is living well. Live well and live strong! You are the winners in these situations....believe it. You deserve so much more than what these men have been giving you. Go out and live life to its fullest. Remember...YOU can, and they are the ones stuck in their dead end lives. You go girls!
newbby Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 thanks walking away. i've already left the situation behind. you are correct though that life is better without them as long as you make sure you live it well!
ThumbingMyWay Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Ok, my story (short version) Can someone pleae remind me again how stupid it is to get involved with MM?!! true, its a bad choice to make I hope you find the truth in yourself and understand the magnitude of the consequences of being in an affair. I truly hope you find some peace and move on from this part of your life and redicate yourself to your husband and your children.
Author Brianschick Posted March 2, 2006 Author Posted March 2, 2006 Well, as you can see I am new to this affair stuff. My MM has resurfasced.. He was very busy with work..does overtime at work plus exta details (he is a detective). I feel like I can ween him out of my system now since I was doing ok when I didn't hear from him...but darn, it is so HARD to not respond to him when he calls...
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