Lishy Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 It makes you feel disappointed with yourself doesn't it? You think of all the times you wanted to contact but didn't and now you feel it is all down the drain! DOnt beat yourself up about it hon! How did it go?
kitten chick Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Actually I feel awful but thanks for the support.
qnmc Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 No worries, everyone has slipped up in the past! The silver lining here is that now you know how it feels to break no contact and odds are you won't do it again. But don't beat yourself up over it (I don't know if you are). We're all human.
Art_Critic Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Actually I feel awful but thanks for the support. But on the flip side your cats and racks are cute Don't consier it a failure.. consider it moving forward..
kitten chick Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 It wasn't really about breaking NC. I'm glad that I did it. In fact I think it's one of the smartest decisions that I've made. This has lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders and there's very little hanging over my head now keeping me tied to the situation. The hard part is knowing that he (and the two other people I dated last year before I quit the game) have found the loves of their lives. I don't know, I must have the magic touch. It's tough knowing that they have found love and I haven't. That's what really gets to me more so than breaking NC. btw, I asked that this thread be deleted but seems like that's not going to happen.
Lishy Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 KC what game did you quit? You quit dating? What did your ex say that upset you so much?
ReluctantRomeo Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 The hard part is knowing that he (and the two other people I dated last year before I quit the game) have found the loves of their lives. I don't know, I must have the magic touch. Well, it proves you're a good girlfriend. If you'd screwed them up and made them disillusioned, they wouldn't have wanted to go for commitment after. It's a strange compliment, but a compliment nonetheless. From all 3 of them. It's tough knowing that they have found love and I haven't. That's what really gets to me more so than breaking NC. Yeah, that I can understand.
Lishy Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Oh RR you have a wonderful way of knowing the right words to say! KC I can understand how upsetting that is for you but the truth is that none of those guys were the one for you! And when you do meet 'the one' you will be grateful that they did not stick around!
kitten chick Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Well, it proves you're a good girlfriend. If you'd screwed them up and made them disillusioned, they wouldn't have wanted to go for commitment after. It's a strange compliment, but a compliment nonetheless. From all 3 of them. I never thought of it that way. I don't know if it's true or not but even if it isn't I'll pretend that it is. Yes Lishy, I quit dating last summer. I haven't really wanted to resume again. Whatever I've done since then is just for show to make everyone else happy. I'm just not willing to take the risk. It's hard to say though because I haven't met anyone with any potential.
CaliGuy Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 KC, it happens. If it made you feel better then it's OK. Don't sweat it. Just focus on yourself and your needs and let the chips fall where they may.
tanbark813 Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Bad NT. When you find the right person you'll be back in the game.
kitten chick Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Yeah it's ok. It was a step backward that I needed to take to move forward. It hurts now but I'll be ok soon. I've confronted my past and I'm ready to move on. Sorry to disappoint you NN but I do believe that even if the right person came along I would turn him down. Some people just weren't cut out for relationships.
tanbark813 Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Sorry to disappoint you NN but I do believe that even if the right person came along I would turn him down. Some people just weren't cut out for relationships. Perhaps, but I've heard many a female friend make this same proclamation and it's never turned out to be a permanent thing.
CaliGuy Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Tanbark, I'm one of those guys that I believe isn't cut out to be in a relationship either. On a side note, how are things with your g/f. Everything back in order?
Pyro Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 A friend of the Riddler family is in her mid 50's. She is happy, loves her career and her life. She is not married nor is she in a relationship. In fact, I don't ever recall her seeing anyone, guy or girl. Not everyone is cut out for or needs to be in a relationship.
kitten chick Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Oh no. I've done the "I don't want to date again" thread and it wasn't pretty. I've actually been told by someone I dated that I wasn't capable of being in a relationship so that pretty much confirms my thoughts. CaliGuy - I think you and I are talking about different things when we say we're not cut out for relationships.
tanbark813 Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 On a side note, how are things with your g/f. Everything back in order? Things are cool. I think I jumped the gun about the weird phone conversation and our communication is improving. We bump heads sometimes because we're both very stubborn but she's shown the most amount of genuine effort in making things work out of any girl I've been with.
CaliGuy Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Oh no. I've done the "I don't want to date again" thread and it wasn't pretty. I've actually been told by someone I dated that I wasn't capable of being in a relationship so that pretty much confirms my thoughts. CaliGuy - I think you and I are talking about different things when we say we're not cut out for relationships. Maybe so, but the results are still the same. I can't manage to keep any relationship going
CaliGuy Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Things are cool. I think I jumped the gun about the weird phone conversation and our communication is improving. We bump heads sometimes because we're both very stubborn but she's shown the most amount of genuine effort in making things work out of any girl I've been with. That's good news man. I hope I am that lucky one day.
kitten chick Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Maybe so, but the results are still the same. I can't manage to keep any relationship going Me neither. Them's the breaks.
Art_Critic Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Maybe so, but the results are still the same. I can't manage to keep any relationship going I think most of us are the same basic way Cali... Otherwise LS wouldn't exist...
CaliGuy Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Well, I'm still clinging to the hope of one day finding someone whom I felt as strongly about as I did with the ex, only they feel the same way about me. I'm just pissed it's taking so long
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