ReluctantRomeo Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 strict backgrounds and lived fairly drama free but boring lives. They often come from religious families with very strict fathers so their entire lives they go for men who are the exact opposite of what daddy would like. Hmmm, I would nuance this somewhat. I think strict fathers are often domineering bad boys by another name. And these girls' lives can hardly be called drama free. My theory, based on my own experience and observation, is that those - male as well as female - who are attracted to bad girls and boys and drama tend to be refinding something from their childhood. Usually unintentionally - at the conscious level they are unhappy with their choice. This theory applies whether their families were strict or chaotic. In fact, the 2 can be flip sides of the same coin - I know a family who flipped from hyperchaotic to hyperstrict in a matter of less than a month. They still had the same underlying problems, including abuse, but they got very different window dressing. On the other hand most women that are more streetsmart and have experienced real drama tend to crave more stability. They crave it, but their instincts often lead them to drama.
alphamale Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 I have a masters degree so I do have both but I have met punks in the East Village that could tell me more about life than your average Harvard grad. agreed WOGGLE, but could they discuss particle physics at a posh cocktail party? most likely not.
SmoochieFace Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 agreed WOGGLE, but could they discuss particle physics at a posh cocktail party? most likely not. Cocktail parties are *beep* - they are nothing but excuses for people to wear $20,000 outfits, drink a little champagne, see and be seen, and smooch LOTS of ass. I'll stick with my jeans and shirts... much more comfy. And bunny hairs come off of those much easier than those fancy-schmancy get-ups anyway.
blind_otter Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Tough call. The Journal of Misogynistic Prejudice has an enormous backlog of original research to get through and Woggle is loath to damage his academic credentials by going straight to the mass-market with Anger and Angermen Monthly. I lust you, RR.
PlentyLV007 Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 From my experience and of course admitting that I do like the bad boy type and it seems that, the majority of men that I do attract are the bad boys. It doesn't have anything to do with my family and history of strict parents. I had a great childhood and went out at age 15 with a time to come home of course. No dad in my life and my mother till this day is a great parent. I don't know why I'm attracted to them or why they are attracted to me. I'm one of those good girls that love to be bad. If you were to see me u would never think...bad girl...? but I'm. Trust me I'm learning and I'm trying to be a better person when it comes to good guys. There is this sweet guy trying to be "playa". Those guys that get hurt and say...yeah I use to be that way and I use to do that for my girl blah blah...but reality .....they will always be sweet and great guys....the whole "use to" is just a cover up. At least to me. In the long run they end up treating me that way...sweet and nice...and I love it. Especially because I know I'm worth it and I deserve that just as well as them deserving a good woman. Loving and caring. I've had bad boys turn out to be great guys. I think I like the whole good / bad guy. Good heart with a strong personality! =) Not an a**h***! Not arrogant! =) Confident!
Author Woggle Posted March 2, 2006 Author Posted March 2, 2006 From my experience and of course admitting that I do like the bad boy type and it seems that, the majority of men that I do attract are the bad boys. It doesn't have anything to do with my family and history of strict parents. I had a great childhood and went out at age 15 with a time to come home of course. No dad in my life and my mother till this day is a great parent. I don't know why I'm attracted to them or why they are attracted to me. I'm one of those good girls that love to be bad. If you were to see me u would never think...bad girl...? but I'm. Trust me I'm learning and I'm trying to be a better person when it comes to good guys. There is this sweet guy trying to be "playa". Those guys that get hurt and say...yeah I use to be that way and I use to do that for my girl blah blah...but reality .....they will always be sweet and great guys....the whole "use to" is just a cover up. At least to me. In the long run they end up treating me that way...sweet and nice...and I love it. Especially because I know I'm worth it and I deserve that just as well as them deserving a good woman. Loving and caring. I've had bad boys turn out to be great guys. I think I like the whole good / bad guy. Good heart with a strong personality! =) Not an a**h***! Not arrogant! =) Confident! The lack of a male presence in your childhood may have something to do with it.
blind_otter Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Well I had a great relationship with my Dad, a horrible one with my psychotic bipolar mother, and I still have the tendency to get into abusive relationships.
Chump64 Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 Woggle, in what area of study do you hold a master's degree?
PlentyLV007 Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 The lack of a male presence in your childhood may have something to do with it. NO WAY! I don't think that's it! I don't think there is a right or wrong answer on this.
Chump64 Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 My family is full of loser bad boys so I went searching for a husband who is totally unlike every male I've ever known. Except he's a cheater.
ReluctantRomeo Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 NO WAY! I don't think that's it! I don't think there is a right or wrong answer on this. Sucks, doesn't it, to realise we're part of life's big chain of cause and effect
ReluctantRomeo Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 My family is full of loser bad boys so I went searching for a husband who is totally unlike every male I've ever known. Except he's a cheater. So not so different after all then
alphamale Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 Woggle, in what area of study do you hold a master's degree? he has a MS in Buffoonery only a few universties offer it...
Chump64 Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 Caution: this is mean. I'm curious about Woggle's "degree" b/c he does not seem to communicate or think like someone who has an education beyond about 10th grade. I thought it could be possible he had an education in a math or science field, but then he wouldn't be so quick to draw conclusions about wide-sweeping, generalized theories.
Chump64 Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 Indeed, Romeo. Except that he can keep a job and he's not a substance abuser. I guess I should be grateful for the positive aspects.
blind_otter Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 Caution: this is mean. I'm curious about Woggle's "degree" b/c he does not seem to communicate or think like someone who has an education beyond about 10th grade. I thought it could be possible he had an education in a math or science field, but then he wouldn't be so quick to draw conclusions about wide-sweeping, generalized theories. Dunno....when I was a math/accounting major (before I switched to psych) -- all the dudes in my classes were completely emotionally obtuse. THey liked to speak in absolutes as well. "All men...." "All women...." "everyone does......."
catgirl1927 Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 I'm in IT and find the same to be true. Most of these guys have kind of limited social skills and they think that what is true for them is true for all, and that all men are exactly like them and all women are exactly the same.
ReluctantRomeo Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 I'm curious about Woggle's "degree" b/c he does not seem to communicate or think like someone who has an education beyond about 10th grade. Pacific North-West. You know, the people who give you a degree based on you telling them about your experience Btw, I myself have a doctorate in Loveshackology. My thesis covered the use of obscure, intellectual and irritating humour in taking threads off-topic
alphamale Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 all the dudes in my classes were completely emotionally obtuse. THey liked to speak in absolutes as well. "All men...." "All women...." "everyone does......." so what?! everyone does that!
alphamale Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 I'm in IT and find the same to be true. Most of these guys have kind of limited social skills and they think that what is true for them is true for all, and that all men are exactly like them and all women are exactly the same. you're working with a bunch of nerds, what do you want?
Chump64 Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 I like that, Romeo. Humor is a great thing. BTW, I don't think anyone needs a bunch of degrees behind their name to be smart or interesting. But when people make huge generalizations (and include a lot of spelling errors), I admit to wondering if they even got out of high school....
blind_otter Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 so what?! everyone does that! HAH - you should have heard the debates/conversations in the psych classes I was in. "I feel..." "This is just my opinion, but in terms of my feelings..." "Relatively speaking...." Because you got jumped on by everyone for speaking in sweeping generalizations or absolutes. BIG no no.
alphamale Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 Because you got jumped on by everyone for speaking in sweeping generalizations or absolutes. BIG no no. who cares?! they're a bunch of liberal-homosexual-sympathisers....
alphamale Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 BTW, I don't think anyone needs a bunch of degrees behind their name to be smart ... ok CHUMP....what if the person who was about to operate on you said that he never went to med school. or your represantive in court told you she never attended law school
Outcast Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 Originally Posted by Woggle I am 26 and I took an IQ test which says I am genius. I got my masters in business at age 23 and I made some wise stock investments that have made me almost a millionaire. I could sit down and debate nearly any subject with you. Matter of fact I should run for office one day. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=596442&postcount=20
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