Simons Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 It has been 4 months since my ex told me she has a bf. I have kept strict NC since then. The problem is that we go to the same church together. I have not been to church since that time. I wanted to be a way from there so i could heal or get better. I still feel in love with her, but i can handle the fact that it is over between us. Now my question is, if i go to church i will see her. Do you guys consider this as breaking NC? Would she start to think otherwise that I was hurt and thats why I disappear??. I don't know what to do hear. I need your help. Thanks a lot S
CaliGuy Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 Go to Church and ignore her. Don't look at her, don't ask her questions and if she approaches you, make like you're busy and have to go. The question is can you handle seeing her?
Author Simons Posted March 1, 2006 Author Posted March 1, 2006 Go to Church and ignore her. Don't look at her, don't ask her questions and if she approaches you, make like you're busy and have to go. The question is can you handle seeing her? Thats the problem CaliGuy. I don't know. Right now i feel i am good. What i don't know is how i gonna take it when i see her for the first time. Another problem, I am very close with the family. Her mum is such a friend of mine, we talk on phone at work and she doesn't know i was dating her daughter. Long story. I cannot ignore her two brothers and she knows this. It is like a trap and i don't know how to get out of it. Ignoring her won't be that easy unless i talked to her to keep off from me?, what do you think?
CaliGuy Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 Go when you are ready, when you feel you can handle seeing her and it won't hurt you. Or just go to another Church.
Author Simons Posted March 1, 2006 Author Posted March 1, 2006 Go when you are ready, when you feel you can handle seeing her and it won't hurt you. Or just go to another Church. ..another church seems to be a good idea. I have been thinking of this option. I guess it will block a lot of pretences and games.
CaliGuy Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 ..another church seems to be a good idea. I have been thinking of this option. I guess it will block a lot of pretences and games. There's your answer. Just go to another Church.
hurtbeyondwords Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 I find that changing things up can be a good thing in a situation like this. If anything it's a chance to meet new people.
Author Simons Posted March 1, 2006 Author Posted March 1, 2006 I find that changing things up can be a good thing in a situation like this. If anything it's a chance to meet new people. I agree, but i am pissed that i am gonna be a stranger to this place just because of her. Bitch!!!
CaliGuy Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 I agree, but i am pissed that i am gonna be a stranger to this place just because of her. Bitch!!! You do realize the irony of what you just said, right? You have to go to a new Church because of the ex....so you call her a bitch? Be a better man than that.
Author Simons Posted March 1, 2006 Author Posted March 1, 2006 You do realize the irony of what you just said, right? You have to go to a new Church because of the ex....so you call her a bitch? Be a better man than that. yeah, i guess i shouldn't have, but only God knows how i feel. I know she is waiting to see me back there..i am not gonna make it easy on her. A new church, a wonderful idea.
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