vtmisc Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 Hi All, Can someone share their experiences of marital therapist - Does it help? - How do I find the right one? - Their qualifications? - Are more experienced therapists better? - Male/Female? - What is the right cost? - Insurance? - I heard that if you go through insurance then when you go for a new job there is some column about mental health/treatment that you might have to declare that you went to a therapist? Is that right? - Does it help to go individually? Thanks
Mz. Pixie Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 Hi All, Can someone share their experiences of marital therapist - Does it help? - How do I find the right one? - Their qualifications? - Are more experienced therapists better? - Male/Female? - What is the right cost? - Insurance? - I heard that if you go through insurance then when you go for a new job there is some column about mental health/treatment that you might have to declare that you went to a therapist? Is that right? - Does it help to go individually? Thanks 1. Yes, it can help. 2. Ask your insurance for a referral or friends or family or perhaps religious place- temple etc? 3. Your insurance should be able to evaluate a therapist based on their qualifications. What is important is that you feel comfortable and feel like you are getting helped. If not, it's time for a new therapist. 4. Male or female- whichever works for you. For your wife, I suggest female 5. It is costly. I would think anywhere from 120-300 per hour 6. You should not have to answer questions about your mental status on a job application unless you work in a highly stressful field- like say air traffic controller. A martial therapist is not the same as being in a mental hospital either. Many people seek marital therapy. 7. Yes, it does help to go individually. I read your other post. It breaks my heart for your wife that your family tried to force her to have an abortion and that you agreed with it. I understand your culture is different than ours but this is a little harsh. You mentioned in your posts that she was responsible for getting pregnant? Don't have sex with a woman if you don't want to take the risk of pregnancy, birth control is not 100 percent her responsibility. If I were you, if you attend temple, I'd ask for referrals' there. You need a specialist that can work through your cultural differences and I think it will take someone who specializes in that. I'm not sure your wife will be able to move past this, but I do know your support should have been behind her 100 percent and not your parents. You were the one who made that baby, and she couldn't do it alone so why should she take all the blame? Because your culture say that it's so?? That's just wrong. Do you live in the US now? If so I would try to get more accustomed to some of the rights that women have here. You know we vote and everything right?
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