pandnh4 Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 so after almost a week of abstinence i went to check my myspace... didn't even bother logging in, just checked my page and comments... was a bit bummed to not find anything new but then i suddenly felt the urge to check up on her... there is a link to her profile from my blog which i can't get rid of and i was literally one click away from caving but i help my ground in the end... it was seriously driving me nuts, felt like i had to know what she was doing, what was going, who else was in her life, etc... god, someone help me... arghhhh...
UT_longhorn Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 dude...get a hold of yourself. what the hell are you thinking...you've done so well with yourself till now. don't throw away what you've built up so far emotionally. think of it this way...lets say you're stacking stones on top of each other...you've stacked a few already, why all of a sudden pull the bottom stone out from under the others? i know that great temptation to check up on your ex. stop talking rediculous and start posting and reading LS and not myspace. come on man...i got your back.
Author pandnh4 Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 thanx ut... you're a good guy... i don't know what i was thinking; this feeling of anxiety just kind of took me all of a sudden... i think i just gotta keep away from all those silly, childish online networks for a while... it had seriously been almost a week since my last login and check-up... i'm gonna keep with it and try to withstand the urges... thanx for the support...
Mariella43 Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Checking up on your ex is normal for EVERYONE - we all want to do it. I've done it - my ex has done it to me.......... Just realize it's part of the process. If you have the discipline to NOT check up on her - you need to bottle it and sell it - you'd make millions!!!! This is the hardest part of no contact - restraining from wanting to call, contact or spy! Good luck!
Dinnj1 Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 there is a link to her profile from my blog which i can't get rid If there is 'public display' way for you to know how your ex is doing? Then chances are SHE knows it too... and anything on there won't be something you wanna see/read. IMO, I foresee more hurt and pain. Mostly likely, purposely put there just to get a reaction out of you. Don't give her the satisfaction.
MatchstickFear Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 If you have the discipline to NOT check up on her - you need to bottle it and sell it - you'd make millions!!!! ha! yes... i love it. and yea, myspace is just pure evil. if you can turn your back to the temptations of myspace, then i agree with Mariella.... you'd make MILLIONS :-D
Author pandnh4 Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 yeah, myspace is just plain evil... lol funny thing is i joined a little over a year ago after resisting for so long... i used it last year to check up on my previous ex and, of course, saw nothing but hurtful things... in theory, people on myspace can't tell who is looking at their profile, they can just see number of profile views from their main account page... however, i have a way of capturing ip addresses of people viewing me... i won't go into details, but it so happens that she checked up on me yesterday... for some reason this made me feel a little better, but now i can't help but wonder why she's doing that... i haven't actually logged in for a week now, gonna just keep away altogether... you guys are all right though... it's so hard to resist the temptation to check up on the ex, find out what they're doing, how they're moving on, if they're with somebody else, etc... of course, all this leads to more pain, but somehow i guess we hope that they might leave a sign that they still care or want to reconcile... =(
Just Visiting Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 Yeah, about a month ago, I found out that my ex had a new gf as he had a pic of them splashed over his profile. I was in shock and so much pain. This was on the hi5 network. Him and I joined when we were living together last January. Now I see it as a tool to show off or whatever. I deleted my account a couple of days after I saw that pic. I haven't looked since...too hurtful. Oh yeah, I noticed that he was checking out my profile and my friend's as well. He can't anymore as I am no longer a part of that site.
Author pandnh4 Posted March 1, 2006 Author Posted March 1, 2006 i was thinking of deleting my myspace account but there are actually a bunch of people with whom it is my only method of contact... people from back in high school and college that i'm not overly close with such that we don't talk over the phone... old friends and acquaintances that i'm not really sure i want to let go of... anyway, it is a pretty childish network but somehow became addicting over the past year... plus it's how my ex and i got to really know each other... just exchanging messages for several months until she dropped the hint that she was interested in me... i don't know, that too is a little troubling for me...
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