If your spouse was not meeting your emotional needs, but you were having amazing sex,

[Guest]

If your spouse was not meeting your emotional needs, but you were having amazing sex, would you cheat?

[Chump64]

No, I'd buy a good BOB and file for divorce.

[mopar crazy]

No, I'd buy a good BOB and file for divorce.

 

 

LMBO!!! But BOB isn't always as good as the real thing, lol.

 

No, I wouldn't cheat. If my M was that bad that I felt I had to find emotional support somewhere else I would file for a D.

[Blind Illusion]

If you are not meeting my emotional needs (at least some of them) I am not going to be having this wonderful earth-shattering sex with you , anyhow. I know how I am. The brain really is the most important sex organ for me.

 

To answer your question though, I'd cheat faster because of lack of emotional fulfillment.

[oannamarie]

What if it was the other way around. What if they met your emotional needs but didnt have great sex. Would you cheat?

[JadeStar]

If your spouse was not meeting your emotional needs, but you were having amazing sex, would you cheat?

 

 

 

No I wouldn't. I would either voice my concerns to my spouse and try to pull together as a team and make the marriage work, or get out of the situation. Cheating will not help anything.

 

 

 

 

 

Jade

[catgirl1927]

No, I wouldn't cheat, because it's cowardly and wrong. I might end the marriage, but even if I HATED the person I wouldn't cheat. It's just a spiteful, hateful, mean thing to do.

[Outcast]

People can work at marriages and learn to meet each other's emotional needs. It's kind of upsetting that everybody just leaps to 'divorce him' as the solution

 

Why be a quitter? Read books by Willard Harley or look him up online. Go to a counsellor. There's plenty you can do to remedy the situation and I always think that a person should try everything possible to repair a relationship before they give up.

[greenshift]

If your spouse isn't meeting your emotional needs, it's your job to point this out.

 

Marriage is supposed to be forever. Cheating or getting a divorce because you're in a bad spot is just... wrong. It's not fair to either of you.

 

1. Tell your spouse you're having issues.

2. When they inevitably don't understand the extent to which you're having issues because you minimized the danger in (1), REALLY tell them by

3. Rent the goodyear blimp. It should land in your front yard just as your spouse is leaving for work, and say: "Sweetie, I love you, and if we don't change then I

I'm going to leave you. Have a great day."

 

Most of us that were on the wrong side of an affair could never have imagined that the person we trusted most in the world, the one to whom we are most vulnerable, would be the one to hurt us so much by cheating. It's damn near unforgivable, not to mention selfish and cowardly.

 

Go to counselling. MAKE IT KNOWN how unhappy you are. Say, "I'm thinking of having an affair, because you're not meeting my needs." Which probably means that YOU aren't meeting THEIR needs, either!

 

ARGH! Just TALK about it, without pussy-footing around the issue.