justhavetoletgo Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 My gf of almost 2 years broke up with me last tuesday and hasn't told anyone other then her close friends (i assume). I know this because one of my good friends works at the same store she does. He came back from Cuba this Saturday I told him what happened and told him not to say anything to anyone because she is the one that works there so I felt like she should be the one if she wated to tell everyone that we were no longer together.after he had worked there sunday and she worked as well he said that no one knew anything she didn't bring it up.????? I guess i should also mention that I used to work there and thats how I met her. alot of people still work there since I left and know that we were together in fact alot of people still know. Thats why I am wondering why she hasn't said anything woudn't she want to? I mean she did dump me. I still see these people on occasion and well they always talked to her and told her to say hi to me so wouldn't it be awkward for her to be asked to say hi to me in like 2 weeks after she broke up with me? I am extremely confused and also am interested in what she will tell them of why we broke up when she dumped me she blamed it all on me and well I can atleast be a bigger person and admit that both of us probaly led to the undoing. anyways just wondering what you all thought of this i would really like to hear what you all think. thanks,
bluechocolate Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I think it doesn't matter one bit what she chooses to tell, or not to tell, people about her personal life so I'm unsure as to what is confusing here.
Author justhavetoletgo Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 I think it doesn't matter one bit what she chooses to tell, or not to tell, people about her personal life so I'm unsure as to what is confusing here. well maybe i shouldn't have said confusing but one way or another she will be asked or have to talk about it so I guess I was wondering what is the benefit of waiting why not tell people so that this can move on I don't want to be like 6 weeks into this thing bump into someone and them ask what happened this has been the worst and hardest week emotionally of my life I know it will get better but I just wish she would get it over with so the questions can be asked and answered and I can try and move forward this is so freaking hard I guess I am just being selfish no one has to tell people about there personal life
bluechocolate Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I don't think you're being selfish. I also don't think that her telling people (whoever they are) is going to help you to try & move forward. Of course if you've been together for 2 years people are going to have questions, but it's not just for her to provide the answers. You're free to tell people, so why don't you? And when it comes to her friends and/or people you don't really know, well it shouldn't really matter anyway, should it? Put a different spin on it. If she's not telling anyone then she's not bad mouthing you and it also gives you the opportunity to the first word in.
Author justhavetoletgo Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 I was thinking about that but it woudln't change what happened and with my luck she might try and contact me and well I definitely hope that doesn't happen for awhile as I would probaly respond and make it harder on myself thanks for the advice
skeptik224 Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 When she starts telling people, they will ask a lot of questions. Maybe she just isn't ready to deal with that. It doesn't really matter as far as your healing process goes. If someone brings it up, be honest. It's not your place to tell her friends - it's hers. I'm sure they'll start asking questions anyway when they don't see you around like they used to. You need to concentrate on yourself and your healing. I've found that by always wondering what the other person thinks/feels only puts off your healing and ability to move on. Obsessing over it and replaying things over/over in your mind will only projong things. Besides all that questioning, will bring on more questions and all the obsessing will only lead to you being more confused about what's fact and what's fictional. Sorry for rambling on. You just need to realize that it's now all about you....
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