Guest Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 A guy at school has liked me for over a year now like A LOT. It is a long story as to why we don’t talk, we have always really liked each other too much to talk really. He is the one who spotted me in the Spring of 2005 walking around campus although we did go in the same lunch room/lounge together I never noticed him really till I seen him having a huge smirk/smile on his face while he walked by me outside almost everyday. Last semester it was great seeing each other in the lunch room at school google-eyeing each other all the time and smiling and smirking, and I loved it when we saw each other around campus when his friends weren’t around. When school started that semester I really found out how much he liked me because he always looked at me sad at first, I know for a fact he has cried, because of what he did/said to me that ended up in us not talking (we talked online for like a week)...ohh I hate Iming, the whole thing was over nothing, he is just plain shy. He talked to his friends on and off about me last semester which I sort of feel is a mistake to have done, but that is just me. I have a myspace page online (which was where I found him during the summer and how I started talking to him), he is the only person who looks at it and I know every time he does (last semester he tried giving me hints he was looking at it by looking at me and mentioning something to his friends I mentioned on the site in my blogs). He doesn’t think he is that important of a person, I know almost all his friends had turned against him and he has been hurt emotionally by his parents, he tries to hide his hurt by acting macho. T he one day at school he mentioned how he was a mistake. For Christmas I wrote him a letter and gave him two gifts. The letter was 4 pages long almost telling him how important he is and that I think so much of him and how he is not a mistake...basically I told him everything he has never heard and I know he longed to hear. My friend has told me before this semester started that he "adores me" and she can easily tell this and that he "needs someone to talk to". "He sees you as something greater than himself, he sees you as someone that he wants to confide in and who won't judge him like others do. He isn't afraid to hurt your feelings because he knows that you'll forgive him, he doesn't have that with his "friends", he needs to push himself above them to feel noticed". Things are different this semester of course. Around campus he doesn’t smile at me like he did before and he only looks at me when he has his glasses on. He still reads everything I post on my site so I shouldn’t be so upset I guess. He is still google-eyeing me and all in the lounge, but the main problem is he purposely says things to his friends to get me upset (ie. saying he sells porn, which he doesn’t), my friend has overheard him telling his friends he wants me to give him “attention” on my site, which I’m not doing after hearing why he is doing it and all. At the beginning of the semester he tried to make me jealous by flirting with a girl, now it is this porn crap everyday. He changed a lot last semester due to liking me and this is a fact, not trying to be one of the guys as much but this semester he is like back to his old ways. I think he is also at the same time in a way trying to make his friends think he doesn’t like me much, like I said I think it was a mistake to tell them from the start. It is still obvious he likes me but I don’t get why he does this to the person he likes. I was thinking just plain insecurities especially now since he knows exactly how I feel. They say people who seek attention are insecure. I was also thinking maybe even though he likes me he is trying to push me away in a sense so he can hide how he feels especially now since like everything is on him to make the next move if he ever does. How true is “actions speak louder than words”? And, “You always hurt the one you like/love”? I don’t get guys.
yngv Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Go talk to him in person -- one to one. That should answer all your questions.
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