kjo314 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Guys/Gals, Met this girl onthe internet and I have talked to her in person twice including today. We went to lunch and had a great time and she already gave me her phone number but she gave me a hug and told me to call her.... Obviously this is a good thing... she is somewhat interested right?? she is a goregous girl.. What should I do next.. and how long should I wait... like I said we jsut did lunch today and it was the first time I got a chance to sit down and talk to her. The hugging thing... that is a good thing right??
RetroMan Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Sounds good. Do as she says I think is what's next.
Author kjo314 Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 so we jsut talked online and she was saying she had nothing to eat and I told her I could come over there and make her something or bring overa pizza and she said.. Yea right you think I would get anything done with you here!! I couldn't stop talking.. is this flirting??? or what? obviously a good thing? right??
yngv Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Oh, yeah, that's flirting. You're in good shape, but don't over pursue -- play it cool. Don't run right over there and make her a meal, if she teased with the above line, you may want to reply "you're probably right" and then drop the subject. Leave HER guessing. This is the fun part -- enjoy it!
Author kjo314 Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 how do you take it to the enxt step.... What is the next step for me... or the suggested next step?
clandestinidad Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I like yngv's advice: just say something to shut down the dinner thing. What she said ("yeah right") is a flirty way to say no to someone, and you should drop it after she says something like that...I do think she'd love to see you again though, based on what else she said. She'll be disppointed and probably ask you in return, just leave it in her court since you've already asked. It all seems really positive so far!!!!
gfto Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 so we jsut talked online and she was saying she had nothing to eat and I told her I could come over there and make her something or bring overa pizza and she said.. Yea right you think I would get anything done with you here!! I couldn't stop talking.. is this flirting??? or what? obviously a good thing? right?? This is a good example of being an overeager "nice guy." I don't necessarily see her reply as flirting. Even if she was flirting, flirting is rather meaningless. Girls can chat online and flirt with you all day even when they're not interested in you. Your next step is to set up an evening date....maybe dinner (like St. Louis Bread Co.......nothing expensive) and pool. Then, close off the evening with a kiss. Meanwhile, you need to stop the online chatting. It makes you look too available. For the first few months, you should only be talking to her when you're on a date with her! The only time you call is to make the date. If she really digs you, she'll bring up the status of the relationship with you, i.e., being exclusive. But, she has to bring it up; not you.
Author kjo314 Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 do we all agree with gfto... if so... how long should i wait to call her???
gfto Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 do we all agree with gfto... I doubt it! I'd say call her Wednesday.
Author kjo314 Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 what should i do when I call her?
Guest Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 maybe you could go out somewhere again. going to her place might seem too forward/fast. a girl has to be cautious when she first meets a guy, and no matter how interested she is, she might not feel comfortable with you comign over until she knows you better. (at least that's how I am--my rule of thumb is at least 3 dates out, before a date in--esp. if you meet online) Actually, one time I met a guy, and liked him, but he was kind of pushy about wanting to come over for the 2nd date, so I dropped him.
gfto Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 keep it short. Say, "would you like to have dinner and shoot some pool Sunday night?" Then zip it, and listen to her response. If she says yes, then say "alright, I'll pick you up at 7:00." If she wants to go, but can't make it Sunday, she'll make some sort of counteroffer. If she does, go ahead and take it.
Author kjo314 Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 she didn't say yea right..... i added that in there this is exactly what she said "You think I would get anything done if you were to come over here... I couldn't stop talking"
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