Pat234324 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 I've never been treated better in my life and honestly I think I'd rather be the OW at this point because I really don't want to deal with a crappy relationship where I'd have to worry about where my husband is at all times of the night. Stress of daily things and the passion just disappears. * My mm sees me at least 4 times a week after work. The sex is too good and I'm addicted to him. He's the first guy who has ever been able to give me an orgasm in bed and he will perform oral sex, everything. We turn eachother on and he complains about his wife never wanting sex and how she "let herself go".. "sex doesn't feel the same".. blah blah blah. * I've met his children and it seems he let them meet me cause he said he wants to divorce his wife and probably wants to move in with me. But I really don't want that. It will probably turn into the same dead end thing he is in now. If you are not the type of person who can WORK on keeping the love and passion alive, then every serious relationship will probably turn into the same thing= a dead end one like's he's in now. * So, I'm not up to the crash and burn where I have to worry about being cheated on later. I rather be the OW for NOW at least. I'm getting all of my desires met this way and he also is very good to me money-wise. He bought me a new car for my birthday and a tiffany diamond ring with matching necklace and bracelets for valentines day. That is just the tip of the iceberg in what he has spent on me. I asked him how he could get away with all this money being thrown at me and he says he manages the finances and his wife will never find out. I asked him what he got his wife for V day and he said, "nothing, but i might get some flowers later". The strange part of it is that I should feel guilty, but I don't at all. * Only thing I think about is how hot the sex is in the new car he bought me and him touching me and caressing me all night long while his wife is probably taking care of the rugrats at home. It kind of turns me on that he wants me more than his wife and I possibly have the control to break them up. I really think something is wrong how I don't have many guilty thoughts over this. It just turns me on to know he's a taken man. UGH!!!! The sex is too good and the money I just can't pass up. I guess people would say I'm a whore but no different than a woman who marries a guy for money or sex etc. * The problem now is that I don't want to have a serious relationship where we move in together or get married at ALL! And lately he's been turned on in the bedroom, wants to cum inside me! He keeps asking.. I'm like < what you want to get me pregnant? And he says, "maybe"... I'm just not going to let myself end up with a person who would probably when the relationship is too hard for him to work on, just go ahead and cheat. He makes me have multiple orgasms during our sexcapades and no man has ever gotten me to have even one EVER!! And he says I'm really tight, best sex he's ever had. It's just too good to get rid of. I'm addicted to the sex... and of course the money is a great bonus..
flutterbuggr Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Wow, at least you know what you want, for now. You are definatly addicted to the sex, obviously because he is forbidden fruit. Lets just say money and jewelry are hard to give up too. He says that "maybe" he migt be trying to get you pregnant? What a sicko! I mean, knowingly create another life out of a lie, at least you can see no good can come from that. I dont think from what I read you really love him. IMO, I think you love the forbidden passionate sex and of course the gifts. How you cant feel the least bit guilty though does bother me. It shows me you lack empathy. Hopefully one day you wont be the one married, home with the rug rats and your husband buying another woman things. Why cant you find a sugar daddy that doesnt have a premade family? If you are not interested in a future with him, you should at least tell him that. You met the kids? How did he introduce you? Did he tell them your real name?
Chump64 Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I don't see the problem. Is he asking you to marry him or make a lifelong commitment? I must have missed it, if so. Or is he happy to be doing the double life thing? Don't let him knock you up unless you want to be a single parent. This original post is almost too flakey and immature to be real. But if you are for real, you might think about your very own words here: "I'm just not going to let myself end up with a person who would probably when the relationship is too hard for him to work on, just go ahead and cheat."
CeeJayXXX Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I am an OW as well.... I think what you have spelled out is a lot of what most Ow's would like to say but at the same time are having respect for the W's in this forum... Yes the money and sex is something you enjoy to the fullest extent....Someone else's husband usually does look more apetizing because all their angers and upsets of every day life are taken out on the W who is trying her damnedest to juggle the kids, H, probably a job and a house full of chores. The men that complain that life sucks at home and the W has let herself go, are the ones that never put anything into the relationship from the get go....and even after children arrive their life routine never change....and the relationship gets boring to them. You are right in saying you don't want him moving in with you because the excitement and passion turn into routine - just like the existing W has now... thus he will probably be on the hunt again. Picking up flowers for the W for Valentine's is a clue that there is something there....diamonds and a car keep you in his life (he obviously knows that) but flowers for the W show that he does care for her on some level. Again, I am an OW and know where you are coming from.... but at the same time, there must be a second in your day that makes you wonder what the woman at home (more than likely struggling each day to keep her family together (knowing that life isn't the way it use to be) must be having some kind of thought of "what if" in her mind....
whichwayisup Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 This has to be a bullcrap post. I smell a troll, once again...
erika2610 Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 This has to be a bullcrap post. I smell a troll, once again... I think you're right. She kind of reminds me of the girl who posted a question like 'How do I get my MM away from his dumpy wife?' or something along those lines.
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