pandnh4 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 so as many of you know or can tell by now i'm going through some rough times coping with a breakup from almost 3 weeks ago... well last thursday evening i was sitting at home watching tv when who should send me a text message? my previous ex, from last year... just to say hi... so i tell her that things are ok and that times are a little rough and then she starts to inquire... so i explain the breakup to her - all this via text messages - and she shows support and compassion... at one point though, after telling her everything that i did to try to make things work with my ex, she says, interesting how similar that is to what she did for our relationship... she also tells me that when history repeats itself it's because we need to learn a lesson and that maybe the lesson here was to find out what kind of girl i should be with... after that she mentions that, for the record, she never used me and did love me but had to leave when things were becoming too difficult between us... she end by saying, who knows where the future will bring us? so all this threw me off guard... my first realization was that, on the positive side, this whole discussion actually got me to stop obsessing about my current ex and got my mind off my guilt for a while... the next thing is that my previous ex was kind of right... i was reluctant to seek out help and did put alot of the blame on her... when i finally did wise up and sought help it was already too late and she started seeing someone else... anyway, this time around, my current ex was too stubborn to want to get help with me and blamed me for everything... not to mention that she would pick fights with me and look for every opportunity to punish me for previous things that we were supposed to have settled already... always bottling up things... so i remembered that at one point both these young ladies had been friends but there was a sour break to their friendship... and at that point was when my current ex began to show interest in me... i wondered for a moment if maybe this whole thing was a setup or some twisted game but realize that would be a little extreme, especially after all the negative things that both of them said about one another... don't know why things happen this way, it's really strange... although i'm in exactly the same situation i was last year at this time, i have indeed learned a couple of lessons but it's still sad to have to go through pain and misery just to realize things...
Author pandnh4 Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 my previous ex texted me again last night and we exchanged messages last night for a bit after i finished watching 24... again, it got my mind off of my current ex for a bit... actually made me feel like someone cared, even though she is with someone else right now, and we actually reminisced about past times together... i'm wondering why she wants to get closer to me... my family and friends all say that it's ok to be friends with her, especially if she helps me get my mind off of the situation with my current ex, but to proceed with caution... because we have a history together and she is with someone else, it would be advisable to move slowly... my father says that she's testing the waters with me because she may not be overly happy with her current bf right now... who knows for sure what her true intentions are, but she would probably be spending time with him instead of texting me back and forth for a couple of hours... no?
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