YoungLady Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Hello, I sent a post before about a guy I chat to quite frequently. In fact I have sent a link to the post. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t82697/ (this is simply to give you a brief history of my posting topics) Anyway, I am very confused about this guy. I have known him for over a year and feel I can fully trust him, so much so, that I have agreed to meet him with the company of a close friend of mine. (who also happens to be my age) Anyway, we have really deep discussions about anything and everything, we talk about politics,reasons why people marry and basically our life style. He has apologized on several occasions for forgetting my age (I'm 16 turning 17 in two weeks) He said because I talk about things in quite a synical way, he forgets the age difference. I just have these strong feelings for him that I want to get rid of. I know a relationship can never happen between for the obvious reasons, but I just feel so close to him. I can't explain why. I'm not a stupid little girl with a stupid crush. I am mature for my age. Maybe it is a crush, I really don't know. I guess it has to be since we have never met. We do have photos of each other, and yes his girlfriend knows, but doesn't mind. (that I think is a little weird, even if there isn't anything going on) I feel really uncomfortable when I'm in a conversation with his girlfriend because of the way I feel. How do i destroy these feelings? I know I'm going to get hurt and I want to prevent that from happening. He said, when I turn 24, he would take me out on a date. A romantic date. This is how close we are. After we have met up in person I will be going up to visit again. Just help me please .. I don't want hurt. Oh, can I please ask one thing, please don't judge me.
smile Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 It seems like you two have a deep connection. I have known many guys who are just fascinated by a woman who is mature beyond her years. But that may be as far as it goes. I would say if his gf knows about you, and talks to you, then he has a pretty healthy adult relationship. He is honest and that is why she can trust him around you. If you are 17 then 24 is 7 yrs away. As romantic and glorious as it seems it may just be the case of yr best friend's sister having a crush on you. You say things like that to give her confidence. So she knows what kind of man she deserves. He probably wants to to have someone who respects and cares about you like he does. But honey you have to face facts.. he is with an other girl. And you arent the chippy behind her back, she knows about you and talks you. That says to me that he mustve proven himself to be committed and loyal to her. You cant be expected to just get rid of these feelings, but you have to be realistic. If you can be friends with both, then do it, and date other boys, yr own age (bc last time I checked 17 is still illegal). He isnt saying when you are 18 he wants to date you, he is giving you a large span of time to grow, live and become someone else. He is probably curious as to what life experience will do to you.. .he probably assumes it will make you better and stronger. I would call this a crush, but thats ok. At least he is nice to you. Crushes can be mean and hurtful. Use this relationship with him to decide what you want and deserve, and what you are willing to settle for. Never settle for being the other girl.
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