halifaxhoney Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Recently a friend of mine Sue and her boyfriend of under a year got engaged. My personal opinion about them being engaged aside, I'm pretty much happy for them. Her and I are not all that close but we have gotten into quite a bit of personal details before. Anyway a couple of weeks ago we were both a close friend of mine's birthday party. The topic of one of Sue's close friend Fiona is pregnant. She also got engaged and approved for a mortgage. I express how good that it is. Fiona has had a hard couple of years and it's good that she is doing so well. At that point Sue proceedes to talk about how "Fiona stole my thunder". Her attitude is frustrating to me. This is not the first time she has said something along those lines. If there is a next time that I will associate with her before her wedding should I take her aside and let her know what kind of behavior she has been displaying? Or do I just let it slide and keep quiet about the good things that happen in my life?
bluechocolate Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 You say you're not all that close? Then I would just let the comments slide, don't acknowledge them & don't respond to them. Her excitement of being a bride-to-be will diminish in time. Oh - & don't keep quite about the good things that happen in your life. If she's unwilling or incapable of being happy for you all the time then she's not a good friend anyway & you shouldn't sweat it. People like that inevitably slide out of our lives without being missed.
JayKay Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I've never understood the 'stealing my thunder' deal... A friend of mine recently went through this with her sister. They both became pregnant around the same time and the sister actually was pissed! She complained that , "M knows how hard it was for me to get pregnant....we've been trying for so long and now I finally am! And she goes and gets knocked up with #3. It kind of takes away from MY time.." When I heard that it knocked the wind out of me. I can't believe the selfishness! Is the world supposed to stop for someone who gets engaged, married, pregnant? No, it continues to go on. People have a right to get engaged, married or pregnant as long as it's the right time for THEM. I think your friend's attitude is very immature.
Author halifaxhoney Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 Thank you for the replies. I've bitten my tounge because whenever she says any of these things it's in front of a group of other people. I don't feel the need to further embarass her. My boyfriend said "If this is her mindset she probably shouldn't be getting married". It's kind of true.
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