Kurtis Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 About a week ago, I found out that a girl had a crush on me. I got the nerve to approach her and say hi, and we ended up going for lunch at school together to talk. We added each other to our MSN lists, and we've been hanging out at school and talking every day for a little while. When I mentioned that it takes a while doing my groceries and bringing them home on the bus, she suggested that her parents take me in their car sometime. I just said oh ok maybe sometime. We hung out at a restaurant Friday. Sunday night she came over to my apt and we had dinner. We were watching a movie and cuddling, and then towards the end of the movie we started randomly making out, it came unexpected. Her parents came to pick her up and her dad introduced himself, I had met her mom a little earlier when she drove us to my place. I honestly can't picture myself dating her, and that's why I was trying to avoid big things like her parents taking me grocery shopping and meeting them. Would I be a jerk if I just told her flat out that I think we were moving too fast and I'd rather just be friends, after having made out with her the night before? I don't have many friends and I'd rather not date anyone right away.. I do know that she could be a great friend though, just to hang out with and go shopping and things like that, without any benefits etc. I'm just really not interested, and I feel that being involved with her parents that way might make it seem like it's official or something.
blind_otter Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Her feelings will be hurt, but you just have to do it. You aren't being a jerk, just honest. But don't expect her to wanna hang out any time soon. Give her some space to explore her feelings and come to terms with the new situaiton, and if she doesn't want to be your friend, don't resent her. If she has romantic feelings for you they can't just be turned off, so she may be unable to reciprocate your merely friendly feelings for a while. Good luck.
clynn Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Tell her. and do it much sooner rather than later. Don't let it continue or you'll really start to feel 'trapped'.
Guest Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Looks to me that you might have not handled the situation very well already. You found out that she has a crush on you, then you start doing all this datey stuff with her? Encourages it rather, doesnt it? You "hang out" at a resturant on Friday night. The two of you have dinner and your apartment on Sunday night. Then you watch a movie while cuddling? But the making out at the end was unexpected? If you knew she had a crush on you and you werent interested you should not have been on the couch cuddling her! Especially not after that nice meal together! Whats she meant to think? Next youre going to tell us the movie was a romantic comedy, right?
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