CVS Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 I've been dating a girl for 5 months and I love her to death. Recently, in the last month she was been acting extremely strange. Last friday, she asked me if I wanted to spend the night with her. She just leaving her sisters so I drove over and waited for her to arrive at her house. As we walked in, I noticed her security alarm was armed. She has never used it in the time we we've been together. I didn't say anything, but I thought that was strange. The next morning as I was putting on my shoes to leave, I noticed her window on her front door was smashed. It looked very obvious that somebody punched it from the outside. I asked her about it and said it was always like that (from when she moved in 2 years ago. She claimed the couch broke it). I know for a FACT that her window wasn't broken. I've walked through that door a million times. The is also no way the couch could have been that high or even caused a damage pattern like that. I said nothing about it on saturday, but tonight I called her and confronted her. I asked her to tell me what happend and why she felt concerned to keep her sec. system armed. She got EXTREMELY angry, said a bunch of bad things about me and hung up. That was a few hours ago. She is obvioulsy lying, but obviously scared too. I know she has a very jealous ex (who is also her boss) and has been in several abusive relationships. I'm fearing that she could end up even dead. PLEASE give me advise on how to help her. She is too willing to protect the wrong types of people. How do I get her to call the police or at least do something to protect herself??? I don't know how to get through to her.
Author CVS Posted February 27, 2006 Author Posted February 27, 2006 Anybody? I called her today at work and it was the same thing......"How dare you not believe me...you're an idiot, don't ever bring this up again, <CLICK>" I can tell she is scared to death, but at the same time she wants me as far away as possible. It is incredibly obvious she is lying about the window.
blind_otter Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 She's pushing you away. Unfortunately, what can you do? If she's not willing to protect herself, she will be the only one she can blame for getting hurt. I say this because I got out of an abusive relationship and the man tried to kill one of my friends. He's in prison now, and after much reflection and soul-searching I realized that I was 50% of the problem because I let it go on that long, and tried to rationalize what was happening to me. Now he is psychotically obsessed with me and when he gets out of prison I plan on moving. But if she refuses to be hoenst with you, and to protect herself, what can you do? Get away from her for the time being. Tell her that until she is prepared to face her demons and be honest with you, you cannot put your life in danger as well. Just my opinion. Sounds harsh, but she has a reponsibilty to protect herself.
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