Groovy Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 When I was dating this guy I made him a Valentine's card with self created graphic design. It cost money to print and frame. We split on the 17th and I never got to give it to him. He knows I made it for him as I mentioned it before we split. I have some stuff that I need to return and was thinking of leaving it at his house with the card. We still see each other at the dog park on rare ocassion and I was thinking it would be a way to end it on good terms, rather than dumping his stuff on his front door. (All I have is a book his brother wrote and signed for him). I'm not into throwing my gift in the garbage when I worked hard on it and I am not into giving it to some other guy next year when I made it for him, nor do I want to look at it as it depresses me. I don't even care what he does with it either. Given those choices what would you do?
Art_Critic Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 No... the card was made with the intention that you two were an item.. If you give him the card now it will look like what it really is.. an attempt to get him back.. No card sends a better message.. since he knows you made it already then him not getting one sends the message it is over.. Don't give him the power.. by keeping the card or throwing it out you have the power
Author Groovy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Posted February 27, 2006 God, I hate that I made something beautiful and get to toss it in the garbage after time and money. WTF! But I guess you are right......
Art_Critic Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 God, I hate that I made something beautiful and get to toss it in the garbage after time and money. WTF! But I guess you are right...... Put it away in a closet in an envelope.. I first seperated from my then wife around Valentines day.. I kept the stuff I had bought fro her even after the divorce.. once I went thru all the "Stuff" a year later I threw it all out.. it felt real good..
Ariadne Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Hey, I'd just go to his house with a big smile, and the book, and the card. But then, I don't listen to this people .......... Ariadne
Author Groovy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Posted February 27, 2006 It may look like an attempt to get back together. And although I miss him dating him was no good for me. I maybe wanted to give it to him and make him feel badly about himself. (Look at what I made for you, take it even though your a jerk). That's wrong too:( I guess I just need to tuck it away somewhere.
Candied-Heart Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Put it away in a closet in an envelope.. I first seperated from my then wife around Valentines day.. I kept the stuff I had bought fro her even after the divorce.. once I went thru all the "Stuff" a year later I threw it all out.. it felt real good.. I agree. I did this a few years back with an Ex. Put all his gifts, pictures etc into a box and teped it shut and put it in my closet abd forgot about it. I found it early last year and dumped it all. It had no emotion, except freedom.
Ariadne Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Hi, It may look like an attempt to get back together. And although I miss him dating him was no good for me. Well, don't go there dressed to kill... Hhhhhhhi...... I missed you babe. Just be normal. Ariadne
alphamale Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 I'm not into throwing my gift in the garbage when I worked hard on it and I am not into giving it to some other guy next year when I made it for him, nor do I want to look at it as it depresses me. I don't even care what he does with it either. Given those choices what would you do? If the garbage is out then hide it somewhere and forget about it. Personally, I would toss it in the garbage. Whatever you do....DO NOT give it to him, you'll come off as pathetic.
blind_otter Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 If the garbage is out then hide it somewhere and forget about it. Personally, I would toss it in the garbage. Whatever you do....DO NOT give it to him, you'll come off as pathetic. Word...........
Walk Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Definitely don't give it to him. Watched a guy who's ex of 2 years left a bag of his "stuff" on his front step. She'd given him back a bunch of cards he given her over the years. Couple of books and stuff. As he dumped all the cards in the trash, all he said was "amazing that she only returned the stuff that wasn't of any monetary value." My point is... he won't think he's a jerk. He'll think your some crazy psycho who one second says it's over and the next leaves him love cards. If you want him to realize he's a jerk, then leave him a letter telling him he's a jerk. Point blank.
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