martha washington Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 Hi folks - Here's the scenario: Boy seems to really like me. Boy and I go out on a date last Friday. Date goes nicely, but towards the end after a few glasses of wine, I say some things that make me sound cynical and jaded about relationships. Boy kisses me goodnight and goes home. All of a sudden, I realize that *I* really like boy despite my jadeness and cynicism about relationships! Boy and I email a bit on Monday or Tuesday, but boy doesn't call and ask me out again or return my Wednesday call asking him out. I know through his coworkers that boy is having an extremely busy week at work, probably the most busy they've been all year. (Boy has a very high-pressure job.) Boy finally leaves me a message yesterday, and I call him right back an hour later and leave him a voicemail message. As of today, no email or call back from boy. Question: does boy still like me? was it a mistake for me to return his call from yesterday so quickly? did I scare boy off? can I unscare him??? Further background: I'm just getting back to dating after spending four months recuperating from a nasty breakup, so I feel like my reactions might still be a little out of whack. At the same time, I do feel ready to get back out there in the dating world. And no, I won't be making any more comments about how "relationships suck" on any future dates!
yngv Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 You are probably reading more negatively into it than it really is. Probably wasn't the best idea to diss relationships on a first date, but what's done is done. He did kiss you goodnight, so that's a good sign. I'd just assume that he is having a busy week and play cool for a few days. Don't over-pursue. You left the last message, so if he's still into it, he'll call you soon.
whichwayisup Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 I hate to say this, but you're thinking too much. I know you're apprehensive about dating again, but the fact you DO know he's really busy with work, and has called you, I say he is still interested. Concentrate on all the good stuff when you feel doubtful. Send him afew fun jokes in email and just say something nice like, hope you're surviving work - Look forward to seeing you again when things settle down.
Author martha washington Posted February 27, 2006 Author Posted February 27, 2006 Well, of course he called right after I posted! I am definitely overthinking this and will try to relax...
whichwayisup Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Good! I'm glad he called. Listen to your gut instinct. Don't let those negative thoughts take over. When you feel insecure and start to wonder...STOP yourself and remember the good stuff to keep you on the straight and narrow! Keep posting and let us know how that next date turns out!
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