lolax Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 ON FRIDAY NIGHT MY MM BEGGED ME TO COME OVER TO HIS HOUSE, HIS W WAS OUT, BUT HIS 3 KIDS WERE ASLEEP IN THE HOUSE !! OF COURSE I SAID NO!!! FOR NUMEROUS REASONS AND I WAS A LITTLE ANGRYAS HE ASKED ME ONCE BEFORE AND AGAIN I SAID...NO WAY!!! WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU ABOUT THIS MAN?? I WAS RIGHT NOT GO WASNT I ???
No Stress Lady Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 ON FRIDAY NIGHT MY MM BEGGED ME TO COME OVER TO HIS HOUSE, HIS W WAS OUT, BUT HIS 3 KIDS WERE ASLEEP IN THE HOUSE !! OF COURSE I SAID NO!!! FOR NUMEROUS REASONS AND I WAS A LITTLE ANGRYAS HE ASKED ME ONCE BEFORE AND AGAIN I SAID...NO WAY!!! WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU ABOUT THIS MAN?? I WAS RIGHT NOT GO WASNT I ??? You were totally right not to go
JayKay Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 He wants a quickie in his home while the kids are asleep? This speaks volumes about the man. I hope you're breaking up with him.
Sami_D Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 He's an idiot, and yes, you were right not to go. Is this the end..? Or will there be more posts about how good/bad he is..?
whichwayisup Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 You did the right thing. Last thing you needed is to show up there and have one of his kids wake up and walk into on you two - Or have his wife come home early. He's being selfish and the fact he invited you over to his house while his wife was out just proves it, don't you think? I hope this is a wake-up call for you. Take a BIG step back and look at the situation you're in. He is worth it? Really think about it...
OzGirl Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Aside from the potential hazards of his family seeing you, I've been in your situation - and I went over. I went numb when I saw his wife's shoes at the back door, family photos, her clothes in the laundry, her nik-naks around the house - she was clearly the interior decorator. I felt like I'd intruded - and it wasn't until I got there that I'd realised I had - it was plain as day in front of me. It was uncomfortable to be there, and it was strange, therefore, to feel uncomfortable around him. But, it opened my eyes up to the fact that he had this whole other life I was not really ever that concious of, and I think it was the first time I really questioned what part I played in his life. I resolved that by not going there again. As an ex-OW, I can say that it's one of those red-lights inside myself I should have taken notice of. Instead, I just thought when we get 'our' house, it will be nicer and he like the job I would do at interior decorating better than hers. How moronic of me to think that way.... If I was you - I wouldn't go for the sake of his kids seeing you. But, for yourself, the pain of seeing even her perfume on a shelf in the bathroom could be an image you'll never lose and you'll then find yourself wondering if he bought it for her... on what occassion.... does she wear it for him.... I need not spell out what I'm sure you already know.
AJS Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 I NEVER did ask my XOM to my home. I felt like this was very disrespectful to my family. It was my A, why would I bring him into my home that I shared with my H and children? IMO I think it's wrong to do this. It's like a secert way of rubbing in my family's face. Nope...too rude, and trashy.
Author lolax Posted February 27, 2006 Author Posted February 27, 2006 He's an idiot, and yes, you were right not to go. Is this the end..? Or will there be more posts about how good/bad he is..? NO ITS NOT THE END, BUT I WAS ANGRY WITH HIM, SO I DONT THINK HE WILL ASK AGAIN. HE WAS DRUNK..BUT I GUESS THATS NO EXCUSE IS IT
RedRose3373 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Hello My ex MM had me over his house. His wife & 2 teenage daughters live down the shore in the summer time. So i used to sleep over his house in the summer time. I would make him call his wife when i got there & when we woke up just to make sure she's still down the shore & we wouldn't get any surprise visitors. I cooked him breakfast every morning etc. I even slept in his & his wife's bed. One night she called during sex & he was on the phone with his wife while having sex with me in their bed! How sick is that?? & this is the man that i wanted for my husband??? Thank god he didnt leave!!! Yeah i'm very ashamed of this relationship, but i learned A LOT from it!! Girls do u really want a man that would do this to his wife????? I know I don't!!! I used to think that he's everything that i ever wanted. Turns out when i look at it now without my rose colored glasses, he's everything that i DIDN"T want. A lyer, a cheat, manipulative, i could go on & on. Thank GOD i am out of that one!!
Art_Critic Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Thank GOD i am out of that one!! You have alot to be proud of as well... You have come a very long way with this man
Guest Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Thank u Art Critic That was very nice of u. I remember last year when u wanted to beat me - we had some serious words on here (me as Marie1973). But i have to say it, " U were right" Yes i did come a long way & i am very proud!! Thanks
RedRose3373 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 THank u Art Critic That was very sweet of u. Yes i have come a long way, it took me awhile, but i did it!! I remember last year when i was in the middle of this relationship, we had some serious words on here (me as Marie1973). I have to say it though "u were right". THanks again. I am so proud of myself:bunny:
Lishy Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Wow Redrose - I did not follow your story with that guy but he sounds like such a jerk! You had a lucky escape girl and how relieved you must feel to be away from him! Reading that sent a cold shiver down my spine! How can anyone do that to their wife? Makes me never want to get married!
RedRose3373 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Yeah u should go back & find my posts, its pretty interesting. Yeah i have no idea how a man could do that to his wife & just think, that man could have been my husband!!! YIKESSSSSSSSSSs Someone up there is watching out for me huh?
Lishy Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 You got out! That is all that matters and well done I can imagine it is hard, it must bang hard on your self esteem sharing the man you love and coming second to-boot! I wish you happiness in future relationships hon!
RedRose3373 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Thanks Lishy that was nice of you! Yes i am out, thank god & it was hard, close to impossible, but i did it. I couldn't take it anymore. NOt to mention that I met a great guy this weekend from Match.com!!
Lishy Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Well check the buggar aint married and you have fun girl! You must feel so relieved to be away from your ex!
THX2000 Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 ON FRIDAY NIGHT MY MM BEGGED ME TO COME OVER TO HIS HOUSE, HIS W WAS OUT, BUT HIS 3 KIDS WERE ASLEEP IN THE HOUSE !! OF COURSE I SAID NO!!! FOR NUMEROUS REASONS AND I WAS A LITTLE ANGRYAS HE ASKED ME ONCE BEFORE AND AGAIN I SAID...NO WAY!!! WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU ABOUT THIS MAN?? I WAS RIGHT NOT GO WASNT I ??? The fact that the guy is cheating on his wife to begin with should tell you this guy is a jackass but that is over the top. My ex actually did that with the guy that she cheated with - what a great parent.
ThumbingMyWay Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU ABOUT THIS MAN?? I know what it tells me. "Hey OW...I want sex now, so get over here!!!!". But what does it tell you? and....a....I thought the sex was too good to be true. What stopped you from going? maybe your selfishness subsided for just an instant, there is hope afterall.
Author lolax Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 I know what it tells me. "Hey OW...I want sex now, so get over here!!!!". But what does it tell you? and....a....I thought the sex was too good to be true. What stopped you from going? maybe your selfishness subsided for just an instant, there is hope afterall. YES ITS TRUE THE SEX WITH HIM IS THE BEST IVE HAD!! BUT I DRAW THE LINE AT GOING TO HIS HOUSE WHERE HE LIVES WITH HIS W AND HIS CHILDREN!!! HES NOT A BAD MAN, REALLY HE TREATS ME LIKE A PRINCESS !! BUT THEN I HAVE HAD NOTHING BUT UTTER PRATTS BEFORE X I EXPECT ILL LEARN THE HARD WAY
ThumbingMyWay Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 HES NOT A BAD MAN, REALLY HE TREATS ME LIKE A PRINCESS !! BUT THEN I HAVE HAD NOTHING BUT UTTER PRATTS BEFORE X I EXPECT ILL LEARN THE HARD WAY well, what would you expect? for him to treat you like crap? You are his Cake, he wont jepordize his side of cake, his woman on the side. I mean cake is good, why would a MM tamper with the ingrediants to his Cake. I say this from my own experience. When my WW told her MM that she told me and that it was over between them, his respone was "You did what!, You ruined everything". And that said it all. She ruined his Cake. Plain and simple. OW are cake in MM eyes. and just a question.....have you EVER thought of what would happen to his children emotionally when they find out there Daddy is lying and conniving behind Mommies back. Ever think of the consequences of yours/his actions yet? thats sounds fesetious, I know, but honestly, have you? And if you have, how does it make you feel? learning the hard way,.....you have no idea what the aftermath will bring. BUT, you will someday. I wish you luck in your endeavors...really i do.
Delectable Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU ABOUT THIS MAN?? Nothing that the fact that he is having an affair and destroying the lives of his wife and kids doesn't already tell us...
Guest Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 Isn't it ironic you're out having an affair with a married man who has a family and on a message board getting advice on whether by not going over there you did the "right" thing. That's almost hilarious- It's really unfortunate that so many people never grow up they just get older. Why do married and committed people cheat? Selfishness? Sex drive? Instinct? Loss of interest? Maybe one or all of those things and on top of that..because they need to grow up sort of like the OW's and OM's that go along with this. My father had an affair with the married mother of a girl I was nearly best friends with. Let me just assure you that all the things the so called adults in the situation are too dense or too asnine to realize are going on..the children end up getting drug through the mud and having the real weight of the problem. Yes- that's right- the people innocent in the matter who didn't have a choice are the people who are inflicted with the emotional wounds and will end up with the emotional scars in the matter. I don't care how low your self esteem is, it's time to grow up people whether your the Ow the Om the MM or the MW.I'm spreaking to all of you.
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