fooled Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 An astrologer friend (yes, I live in L.A.) showed me a book last night that floored me. She said that by choosing a couple of behaviors that were most like me - it would outline my personality and strengths/weaknesses and offer a path. Naturally I was skeptical. Folks, reading this chapter was like a guy was living in my head for 30 years, stepped out, and told me what he saw. It was dead-on accurate. What it did, was show me why I've been attracting the kind of women that I have been. It correctly identified insecurities and fears and offered means to overcome them. It also - for probably the first time since the breakup - had me concentrating totally on myself for 30 minutes straight. And it will continue to do so. The book is THE WISDOM OF THE ENNEAGRAM by Riso & Wudson. I recommend it for anyone who is healing. Be open and honest with yourself, because it ain't all pretty. But that's the point - to realize the flaws and fix them. The things that were questions yesterday afternoon became answers last night.
helena abadi Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 the enneagram (from the Greek word enea which means nine) is an extremely useful analytical tool for relationships, work, life generally. do you mind sharing which number you are, and what you ex was? i'm a five, i think, but wish i was an eight or a seven. and i believe the numbers are fluid, what you are today might not be what you are several years from now.
Author fooled Posted February 26, 2006 Author Posted February 26, 2006 right - and sometimes you are in transition between two. I'm a four. I didn't look to see what she is because honestly - I don't know who she really is. I did have some 5 tendencies, but that is probably because I spent a lot of time piecing together all her indiscretions. What did you feel after you read your chapter?
helena abadi Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 i was kinda between four and five. i wondered if you were a four!! i'm in a creative profession, so four seemed more natural. fours seemed such drama queens, over sensitive etc. and fives too introverted, brooding, analytical. (i should be thinking more positively about our attributes, sorry, i'm having a negative moment) anyway, it made 100 percent sense. my ex was a seven. my father was a one. my sister an eight, my mother a six. i really wanted to be a more extroverted number - i loved my ex's seven attributes. but he was commitment phobic, typical of a seven. reading the enneagram was a lightbulb for me. you can help work out relationship compatibility this way. hmmm, didn't take my own advice on that one.....
helena abadi Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 past my negative moment. what i should have said is high-five for the four-fives! we rock.
Dinnj1 Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 curiousity got the best of me, so I purchased it today. Was disappointed they didn't have a CD version. I hate reading.
helena abadi Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 i hope you will read it, because it is such a useful system it would put therapists out of business. it is core self-knowledge. be aware that what number you decide you are, may vary at different stages in your life, and that you have attributes from numbers on either side of your choice. this probably sounds like crap to anyone who doesn't know what the enneagram is.... but don't knock it till you try it. it's been around for centuries.
heartnsoul Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 The Wisdom of the Enneagram : The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types Or Personality Types : Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery Not sure which one you're recommending.....
Dinnj1 Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 The Wisdom of the Enneagram : The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types I got this one. Read 3 pages. Took a short nap. Back on LS.
heartnsoul Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 I got this one. Read 3 pages. Took a short nap. Back on LS. :lmao: Sounds like something I'll end up doing
Author fooled Posted February 27, 2006 Author Posted February 27, 2006 The Wisdom of the Enneagram : The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types I got this one. Read 3 pages. Took a short nap. Back on LS. Well, you have to be open, honest and receptive to knowing yourself. You don't have to read the whole book. Do this: the exercise on pages 14 & 15. The combination of letters will tell you your nummber, 1-9, on page 18. Then go to that number's section and READ IT! You will be concentrating on YOU for once and not your ex or how miserable you are.
Dinnj1 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Yes, I skimmed right to the test... but was extremely tired. First came up with BX=9 The peacemaker... then reread the questions more carefully... BY=4 The Individualist... Can I clarify that even more??? I thought I read something about a follow up test to really pin point myself and all the issues that I have.
Outcast Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 All of these personality scoring type tests have been touted as the be-all and end-all. Same went for Myers Briggs. For my money, the Colour Quiz is the most amazing of all. And if you don't know what Enneagrams are, google them. Everything on the planet is googlable.
Dinnj1 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 googlable This word just looks silly. I can't even say it three times fast.
Blind Illusion Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Interesting! I never heard of these but like new stuff like this. I have googled and see that there is even a downloadable test of some sort.
helena abadi Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 .You will be concentrating on YOU for once and not your ex or how miserable you are. exactly. it helps centre yourself, reinforce your core strengths, and yes it does make you focus on yourself, not your ex. a lousy relationship and a traumatic break up can weaken you, make you lose sight of who you are, what a unique, fabulous individual you are, and the enneagram is a jolt back to reality and very encouraging. it gives you insight of you at your best, average health and in poor mental health. in response to questions - the longer test in the book gives a more accurate analysis, but the short free test on the website is not a bad indicator - it shoves you in the right direction. Dinnj1 - re the four and a nine, were they the two numbers you scored the highest on?
Outcast Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 It says I'm a two-seven; mainly a two. But I'm much closer to my astrological persona than I am any of these types. Or mixtures of types. Or whatever.
skeptik224 Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 I couldn't resist - I just bought the book....I should get it tomorrow
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