UT_longhorn Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 how many of you maintain a friendship with an ex from the past? what did it take to get to that point?
helena abadi Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 i have never been friends with an ex. there's not one i would never want to see again. ........except one. and i'm working on it, well, bumbling along because i've never done it before and don't know what the hell i'm doing. we were once great friends and everything else, but it all screwed up badly. and i'm not sure it would serve any purpose anyhow. confusion reigns. perhaps people who have been best friends, as well as lovers, have a better chance at a friendship beyond the split. why would you want to be friends? what's the point? i believe friendship takes healing on both sides for it to be possible. and that means the wounds are closed, any lingering romantic agendas have been abandoned so when you see your ex with someone else, you are not dying inside with pain, and vice versa.
fooled Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 A couple, actually - it did take a while though. I posted here about it: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=719043&postcount=27
helena abadi Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 thanx, i'll take a look. anything but to keep on feeling like a bumbling amateur
helena abadi Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 OMG i read it. it does take quite a while to achieve, but i'm impressed. good closure is so much better. also, divorcing parents with children need to assemble some kind of friendship, if it is at all possible. it benefits the children enormously. and i'm sorry to read about the ex who deceived you so badly. deception like that cuts to the heart of the soul. it happened to me and had the most devastating effect on my self-esteem. it was third-degree burns. and i couldn't believe i could be fooled like that.
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