kgal Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Here's my situation: First of all....I come here and post every so often... and I'm so glad there is a place like this on the net!! So here it is:::: I met someone two weeks ago... a neighbor of mine set us up. He is almost 5 years younger than I am. That doesn't really bother me though....it's the fact that he is going through a divorce that is making me so mind boggled at this moment. See....we hit it off great! that first week after we met. We saw each other every day and he would come to my work on my lunch break and take me out to eat. He is one of the sweetest and caring men I've ever met. But the fact that he's going through this divorce makes it really hard to get close to him. After the first week of seeing me.. we had already started just kissing and nothing more... but he sat me down and told me he just didn't want another commitment at the moment. I understood.. but at the same time, I was hurt.. I had been dumped twice over the past two years.. and have a few rejection issues. I did understand and I still do.. I just hate how we still both like each other.. theres just no kissing or intimacy. We did cuddle last night while watching tv.. but that's it. He's flirted with me off and on.. and sometimes I really feel that if this was a year after his divorce, he would be all over me, lol. Any advice??? Will this ever be serious?!!
JayKay Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 This guy probably needs a few casual flings before he's gotten it out of his system. I have a few guy friends who went through divorces. Interestingly, it took them each about 4 years before they got the flightiness out of their system. I'd give him a lot of space and cut out the flirting. Let him know you are not looking for a casual thing, you'd prefer to spend your energies on a relationship with potential. The worst thing you can do is be the 'sometime girlfriend' who's waiting for him to 'come around'
Love Me For ME Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 he could really like you but dont want to get 'invovled' because hes going through a divorce and doesnt want you to be pulled in with all the stress he could be under, if you give him time to get through the divorce and get everything settle then you could just find your self being a 'fulltime girlfriend' and not just a bit of the side while he is waiting to settle with the divorce
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