PrittyGurl Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I've been in a long distance relationship for about 3 years now. We love each other and we want to get married soon and we will. Over the past 3 years, I've never had thoughts or eyes for another man (not even movie actors or whatever) just because I never felt any other man could live up to what mine can. But lately... I've been having fantasies, thoughts, even thoughts about cheating (although I don't think I'll ever do it), and it's becoming difficult. It gets pretty lonely sometimes especially when your girly friends are telling you their bedroom ideas and problems. I can't even count how many times I've thought about calling up this one guy who I met not too long ago to just come and "spend time with me". In my heart I know it's wrong, and I should never do it. But I'm worried I might give into those temptations sooner or later and I will deeply regret it. I love my husband more than anything, I just want to figure out a way to avoid thinking about this sort of stuff. The last thing I want to do is leave him.
travellingman Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 We love each other and we want to get married soon and we will. I love my husband more than anything How many men do you plan on marrying?
Author PrittyGurl Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 just one...lol i'm not married. that was a typo. I meant boyfriend. I have never been married before or anything like that.
RubixCube28 Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Yeah that one tho me for a loop too.. You mean your not marryed yet and your already calling him your husband? Or you have a husband and a long distance thing??
Author PrittyGurl Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 Yeah that one tho me for a loop too.. You mean your not marryed yet and your already calling him your husband? Or you have a husband and a long distance thing?? I'm not married yet and I'm already calling him my hubby. It was just a typo.
romanticism311 Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 I've been in a long distance relationship for about 3 years now. We love each other and we want to get married soon and we will. Over the past 3 years, I've never had thoughts or eyes for another man (not even movie actors or whatever) just because I never felt any other man could live up to what mine can. But lately... I've been having fantasies, thoughts, even thoughts about cheating (although I don't think I'll ever do it), and it's becoming difficult. It gets pretty lonely sometimes especially when your girly friends are telling you their bedroom ideas and problems. I can't even count how many times I've thought about calling up this one guy who I met not too long ago to just come and "spend time with me". In my heart I know it's wrong, and I should never do it. But I'm worried I might give into those temptations sooner or later and I will deeply regret it. I love my husband more than anything, I just want to figure out a way to avoid thinking about this sort of stuff. The last thing I want to do is leave him. I have a similar experience maybe I can share with you. My b/f and I are in LDR for 2 years, I love him deeply although our relationship are not as matured as you touching about future or marriage. I live alone in a foreign country without close girlfriend or relative, so my loneliness drove me to a bar and I met a good looking guy, it was very tempted to have some "fun" time. The first few nights I could control myself well didn't do anything with him but then it finally happened. Before I did it I told myself it was just supposed to fill up my loneliness and sexual desire, nothing more. The next day I woke up what I felt was instead of having "fun" I felt absolutely guilty. Guilty to myself that how can I sleep with someone I don't know much. Guilty to my b/f that I betrayed him. Sex desire.....forget about it.......there wasn't any fullfiling but just I felt myself was just like an animal. Furthermore I asked myself how would I feel if my b/f sleep with somebody else? I am not the very conservative person that would never sleep with men. The thing is if you have somebody really in your heart and you love solely, this kind of casual fun will never help up any of your physical or mental emptiness. You will only get guilty instead....... Be strong, you are going to have planned bright future with him. I am still in a waiting stage with him. Besides, you have friends and relatives to be with you right? Romanticism311
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