kjo314 Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Guys/Gals, I orginally posted this in the forum... "Guys/Gals I met this girl and have been in contact with her and I asked her to lunch and this is what I got... Heeeeaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyy! It was cool that we got to chat tonight! And I am going to take you up on that lunch offer!!! I mean, music, skiing, laughing, dancing, working out, french.... yeah we're gonna be friends. talk to ya soon!!!!!!!!!!! We just met like 2 days ago so I mean.....does she mean we will just ONLY be friends or does it mean she is interested but wants to get to know me more. We really don't know a lot oabout each other yet." So I was talking to her online and she was in the library and she told me to come up and see her. So I did.. We talked for a while and I asked for her number and she gave it to me. I asked her to lunch on Monday and she said yes. So.... what does this mean now??? What is the next step... She seems really shy.. that was the first time I ever really talked to her and we only talked for like a half hour but it was fun! we both laughed and talked about basic stuff made fun of each other it was a good time.. What should I do on the lunch thing!! Are things heading in the right direction.... Also since she gave me her number... should I call her sometime this weekend? or wait till monday? I am excited but also don't want ot blow it.. I want to not mess this one up because she is a gorgeous girl and seems really fun to be around. Thanks for reading..Sorry if you already read it.
Tony T Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 If you worry this much about every lady you meet, you're doomed to failure. Be nice, be cool and have lunch with her just like you would with any other person. Let things start out as friendship and progress from there. This lady doesn't know you. She doesn't know whether you'll be a friend, be her husband, or be somebody she forgets about in two weeks. Giver her, you and the relationship a break!!! Have a nice lunch with her, mind your manners. Don't bring up the subject of sex or anything else that should be restricted to people you know very well. Don't belch or fart in her presence. Ask mostly questions about her. Focus on her and don't offer a lot of ego-boosting stuff about yourself. Then let things flow naturally. If you don't get good at that you'll never succeed in love.
Devildog Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Well, the lunch thing creates a kind of gray area. It can be seen either way and you can use it either way depending on how it goes. If things go well, it falls into the category of a date, if not, well, it is just lunch so there is no obligation to stay for an extended period of time. Also, it might be murky to her as well. She might not know if you were asking her out on a date or lunch. This type of scenario offers a good opportunity to get to know each other a bit better without the pressures of an actual official date. For the record, the last time I asked a woman out for lunch, it became a 5 hour lunch that could have gone even longer if we didn't have to leave for other reasons. With you going to meet her at the library, she knows you are interested. But if she is the shy type she might still be unsure. If she doesn't hear anything from you until Monday she might start thinking you didn't enjoy her company at the library. I would suggest a simple text message. Something simple. Just a "Hi there!" type message.
Author kjo314 Posted February 26, 2006 Author Posted February 26, 2006 Yea she asked me to meet het at the libaray and that was the first time we ever truely talked...we talked aboutsome things like i said.... she gave me her number at the end of that so.. i guess she is somewhat interested.. right?? I havn't "dated" in like 3 yeras so this is like a new thing to me... I feel like I am in high school again.. I mean it took a lot to grow the balls to ask her to even lunch!
Author kjo314 Posted February 26, 2006 Author Posted February 26, 2006 I should also add that we met online.. I met her on a matching site and she sent me an e-mail in french after I sent her the frist e-amil.. I thought that was awesome so I gave her my name and she added me on facebook and all that... Maybe this changes things.. maybe not.. let me know
Author kjo314 Posted February 27, 2006 Author Posted February 27, 2006 please read the latest info...thanks!
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