Argentina Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Some of you may have read my post from a month ago. Basically met a lovely man 3 months. I have two children and cannot have anymore. I had a hysterectomy due to health reasons over a year ago. He wants his own and I was honest about my hysterectomy from the beginning. Anyway, a month ago I ended the relationship because I was worried about being hurt and knowing that he wanted his own children. Anyway, after some soul searching and a couple of weeks I got back in contact and asked him if he still wanted to see me, explaining that I felt I hadn't really given it a chance. He was happy to start seeing me again. Anyhow, tonight after further discussion he has told me he is in two minds. One, thinking about me and two, thinking about having his own children. He tells me that emotionally he is half-way there with me and that he knows the more contact we have the more involved he will get. On the other hand if he gives me 100% of a relationship then it takes away his chances of finding a partner to have children with. He wants a committed relationship and says he can't sleep at night if he is just having a half-hearted relationship with me. The other part of his mind being on finding the woman to have a child with him. I guess he is being very honest so don't feel angry. Just sad. Anyone got any words of wisdom on this one?
MrsHellFire Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 If your ovaries are still in tact and are producing eggs, I'm thinking maybe an option would be to get a surrogate mother.
Author Argentina Posted February 26, 2006 Author Posted February 26, 2006 Interesting thought and one I have thought of myself. But lots of legalities involved there. Emotionally we are both only half way there with each other and I imagine he would find it a far safer option to keep searching for the right woman than to consider a risky procedure with someone he is not yet truly head over heels in love with. He is 36 and a farmer. His past relationships have all been quite short term and distance has been a huge problem with past relationships. Not for me though and he knew that. Who knows how he will get on finding the right partner. Guess it remains to be seen.
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