whichwayisup Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Hi WWIU, I like the "live life as it hits you" very consise, till now It would take me 10 minutes to relay that sentiment. The young at heart needs disecting. What would be examples of this? Makes sense though doesn't it! Young at heart meaning, don't act 'old'. You know when some people reach a certain age, all of a sudden they change and feel they can't DO the same things they did when they were abit younger? Be mature, but not too mature, be responsible but definately know when to let loose and have fun. Don't be completely set in your ways - Just doing something cuz it popped into your head (as long as noone gets hurt) and being spontanious is great too! Hope that helps.
Curmudgeon Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Hear! Hear! I'm much more comfortable with myself now than I was at earlier ages, far more mellow, have fewer worries (if any at all) and am infinitely happier. Besides, growing older certainly beats the alternative!
cal gal Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I think the hardest part about dating anyone is that I have always liked myself a whole lot. This, as I am shocked to find out - is very intimidating to certain men. Yes, I do have my faults and nothing about me is FAKE. I am not perfect, I know that - however I am considered to be more than attractive and very sexy. I think very often that is the problem - I call a spade a spade - am very sexually inclined - and tend to intimidate men that aren't secure... At this point it is often times so much easier to stay home and be happy than to venture out and realize that the men out there are not personalities that I would spend time with. I hate even thinking about this - much less analyzing it, but I am beginning to think that as we all get older it is easier to know ourselves and what we are and aren't willing to deal with on a daily basis. (and yes, I am an easy going personality, but I have certain standards that keep me grounded).
Curmudgeon Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I think the hardest part about dating anyone is that I have always liked myself a whole lot. This, as I am shocked to find out - is very intimidating to certain men. Those who would be intimidated are those who would not be worth the time and trouble to begin with. I can't remember the last time I was intimidated by a woman and since I work in politics, I know a bunch of them who are powerful, successful and self-assured. Many attempt to intimidate but I just laugh inside and keep a calm, neutral demeanor. I guess being generally irreverant and having a finely-honed sense of humor helps too. it is easier to know ourselves and what we are and aren't willing to deal with on a daily basis. Knowing your own tolerance level is always a good thing in my view.
cal gal Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Those who would be intimidated are those who would not be worth the time and trouble to begin with. I can't remember the last time I was intimidated by a woman and since I work in politics, I know a bunch of them who are powerful, successful and self-assured. Many attempt to intimidate but I just laugh inside and keep a calm, neutral demeanor. I guess being generally irreverant and having a finely-honed sense of humor helps too. Knowing your own tolerance level is always a good thing in my view. I agree with you C -for the basic fact that I am always attracted to people that are extremely confident and know themselves as well as express themselves openly and honestly. If it is anything different, I tend to think it is a waste of my time and energy to work that hard at a friendship/relationship where the other doesn't have a clue as to what they are about and cannot express it. Unfortunately, a whole lot of folks misinterpret this as a personality that is intimidating and too strong. This really is not the way I would describe myself, but I must be doing something wrong - as I am beginning to think this is how I am perceived. I find it difficult to find that balance, so I have just pulled away socially which is totally out of realm for me, and I feel sad to not go out much. Beginning to hate life as it is so different than I what I understood six months ago when I was married and nobody seemed to be threatened by me then.... go figure....
Outcast Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 There's a fine line between having high standards and being too demanding; between knowing what you want and being intolerant. It's necessary to always cast an eye on what you do to ensure you don't cross those lines.
Curmudgeon Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 CG, those who would misinterpret are likely those who lack the sophistication to discern the quiet strength behind what may appear to be reserve. When you were married you were "safe." Now you can be seen as a factor solely unto yourself. Perhaps this is what some are put off by. Don't withdraw. There will be someone who sees you for who and what you really are.
Author Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 good vocabulary and melodic, well-modulated and rather deep speaking voice they're attracted to. Great point C Lion. I consider myself "between education levels" I'm better educated than some, smarter than many. My conversations tend to be a mix. In conveying a thought I'll say something like " Although his abilities aren't sanctioned by any authoirity, I still think he's doing a f***ing good job" I'd like to clean up my speech and develop the speaking voice you mentioned. Thats a thread in it's own right. How to do it naturally.
whichwayisup Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I'd like to clean up my speech and develop the speaking voice you mentioned. Thats a thread in it's own right. How to do it naturally. So, start a new thread. Sounds like an interesting one to read and reply to!
Author Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 I pointed out our age difference, she said she knows how old I am and she doesn't care, oh and i don't have a lot of money, or hair, or perfect vision, or a tan.... hang on.....was she actually talking to me? I hope you both become close.
Author Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 So, start a new thread. Sounds like an interesting one to read and reply to! Under self help I'd say.
Author Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 I feel like I've read that or similar a hundred times, but it never sticks in my mind.
witabix Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 I pointed out our age difference, she said she knows how old I am and she doesn't care, oh and i don't have a lot of money, or hair, or perfect vision, or a tan.... hang on.....was she actually talking to me? I hope you both become close. Sarcasm basic? Oh well, I have no idea whats gonna happen. Right now I have issues to deal with. And no desire to embroil this very nice young woman in it. I will play it by ear, just like the blues!
Author Basic Posted February 26, 2006 Author Posted February 26, 2006 Sarcasm basic? Oh well, I have no idea whats gonna happen. Right now I have issues to deal with. And no desire to embroil this very nice young woman in it. I will play it by ear, just like the blues! Sorry Mr Bix. Wasn't intended that way.
witabix Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 Sorry Mr Bix. Wasn't intended that way. Wasn't taken badly Basic.
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