Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 What makes (or would make) a man over 40 attractive and sexy? What are common mistakes that make them unattractive? What's the appeal factor to women of each age group? I've kept myself fit. I groom myself better. I'm more naturally friendly then I was at 21. I dress casual neat, but sometimes wear jeans so my bum can be admired. I'm financially more secure than at 21, and feel more relaxed because of it. I don't dye my grays. I look at least my age. I'm not as vigorous as 21. I've settled into a comfortable pattern (read set in ways?) Maybe I'm somewhat jaded.
witabix Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Ha! Nice one Basic, this should be interesting.......
Author Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 it's educational too. Thanks Mr Bix.
whichwayisup Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 What you said about yourself is sexy enough. Being who you are, more secure, more settled in life, experienced and relaxed. (most) Women over 30 really don't want a man who is still 'finding' themselves at 40. Keep your humour, live life as it hits you and stay young at heart, always! As long as you're willing to do abit of changing, compromising but still be you, that's good. I'm married and 35 years old, but if I was single and looking age really wouldn't be an issue with me.
a4a Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 What makes (or would make) a man over 40 attractive and sexy? Independant, finanically secure, knows what he wants, proper manners, great sense of humor would be desired and expected in a OFM. Should be able to have good skills in the sheets! What are common mistakes that make them unattractive? Acting like they are 21 years old. Trying to be what they are not. What's the appeal factor to women of each age group? I have never dated below my age. I have always been more mature myself so not tolerant of immature people at all. I've kept myself fit. I groom myself better. I'm more naturally friendly then I was at 21. I dress casual neat, but sometimes wear jeans so my bum can be admired. I'm financially more secure than at 21, and feel more relaxed because of it. I don't dye my grays. I look at least my age. I'm not as vigorous as 21. I've settled into a comfortable pattern (read set in ways?) Maybe I'm somewhat jaded. I like a salt and pepper headed man...... no matter what the age. You sound like you would not go into my "no way in hell" pile!
JayKay Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 BALD is sexy. Seriously. I love a shaved head or a naturally bald head. My best girlfriend feels exactly the same way. I know some women don't, but all women are different. A smile is sexy. So are crinkles around the eyes. A sense of humour. A man who is able to laugh at himself. Nothing worse than a pompous bag of hot air who takes everything way too seriously Some older men have really learned how to be friends with a woman; this is so awesome! As romance waxes and wanes, as it does with all relationships, you still have that solid sense of "I'm with my best friend" when you're together. Streaks of gray are sexy. So are glasses. A man should look his age. That doesn't mean he has to look old. He should try to stay fit, keep in shape, eat right and excercise. I've seen some gray-haired men who are toned and fit, dressed well and who carry themselves with confidence....who were so sexy I was hard pressed not to run up to them and rip their clothes off! But don't try to dress like a college kid, talk like a teenager or try to hang on to your 'rocker' hair. It looks pathetic.
dgiirl Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Personally, I'd rather date someone in my age range. When I was 20, i related better to men in their 20's. Now I'm 30, thus looking for men in their 30's. When I'm 40, i'll be looking for men in their 40's. I dont think age has any bearing on if you can date, but maybe if you are looking at women not in your age group, you'll have a more difficult time.
Author Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 What you said about yourself is sexy enough. Being who you are, more secure, more settled in life, experienced and relaxed. (most) Women over 30 really don't want a man who is still 'finding' themselves at 40. Keep your humour, live life as it hits you and stay young at heart, always! As long as you're willing to do abit of changing, compromising but still be you, that's good. I'm married and 35 years old, but if I was single and looking age really wouldn't be an issue with me. Hi WWIU, I like the "live life as it hits you" very consise, till now It would take me 10 minutes to relay that sentiment. The young at heart needs disecting. What would be examples of this?
Author Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 Personally, I'd rather date someone in my age range. When I was 20, i related better to men in their 20's. Now I'm 30, thus looking for men in their 30's. When I'm 40, i'll be looking for men in their 40's. I dont think age has any bearing on if you can date, but maybe if you are looking at women not in your age group, you'll have a more difficult time. I've stayed within 5 years of my age. We all see the May-December, or maybe June- Oct couples now and then. So clearly some younger will date older. I wonder what those younger women find attractive about the mature gents. I'm speaking of average people, not a young actress or Anna Nicole Smith with clear motives. I've never approached younger women. I don't think I've picked up on any signals from them. Of course I haven't been looking for those signals.
Author Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 BALD is sexy. Seriously. I love a shaved head or a naturally bald head. My best girlfriend feels exactly the same way. I know some women don't, but all women are different. A smile is sexy. So are crinkles around the eyes. A sense of humour. A man who is able to laugh at himself. Nothing worse than a pompous bag of hot air who takes everything way too seriously Some older men have really learned how to be friends with a woman; this is so awesome! As romance waxes and wanes, as it does with all relationships, you still have that solid sense of "I'm with my best friend" when you're together. Streaks of gray are sexy. So are glasses. A man should look his age. That doesn't mean he has to look old. He should try to stay fit, keep in shape, eat right and excercise. I've seen some gray-haired men who are toned and fit, dressed well and who carry themselves with confidence....who were so sexy I was hard pressed not to run up to them and rip their clothes off! But don't try to dress like a college kid, talk like a teenager or try to hang on to your 'rocker' hair. It looks pathetic. Thank You, Thank You Thank You. I never thought about the glasses, my eyes are still functioning without them, so far. I have a bad habit of smiling without showing my teeth. My teeth are nice too. I don't feel natural flashing the teeth unless I'm laughing.
dgiirl Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I've stayed within 5 years of my age. We all see the May-December, or maybe June- Oct couples now and then. So clearly some younger will date older. I wonder what those younger women find attractive about the mature gents. I'm speaking of average people, not a young actress or Anna Nicole Smith with clear motives. I find 5 years is a good range. Of course everyone is different and some women relate very well to older men. But i think this relates to mental age and maturity. I'm mature in some areas of my life, and immature in others. I still prefer to wear jeans, whereas my exh wears dress pants. I'd prefer to go to an amusement park and he'd prefer to stay at home listening to gregorian chants sipping wine. At times, I felt he was a little too old for me, although he was only a year older. I've never approached younger women. I don't think I've picked up on any signals from them. Of course I haven't been looking for those signals. Then I dont think age is the issue. There's always someone out there who is attracted to what we have. We just need to be confident in ourselves regardless of how old we are.
Curmudgeon Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I'm just a few months shy of 60 and my wife is only two years younger than I am. Thankfully, she likes me just the way I am -- character lines, gray and silver, thinning hair, (with just enough brown left for me to remember what color it used to be) and the requisite glasses. I was 45 when we met, 50 when we married, and time has done its thing to both of us. My wife describes me as "ruggedly good looking" and loves me for who I am. I can't ask for anything more. As for younger women, some have expressed interest over the years but no thanks. It has to be my confidence, self-assuredness and "success" (within my profession), as well as my good vocabulary and melodic, well-modulated and rather deep speaking voice they're attracted to. Whatever! I find many women of any reasonable age attractive but for the long-haul, my own age group is far preferred and I'm perfectly content with the "old woman" I share my life, love and dreams with.
Author Basic Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 listening to gregorian chants Maybe he was too old for you!
Outcast Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 melodic, well-modulated and rather deep speaking voice Oh yeah. That'll do it!
Curmudgeon Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Oh yeah. That'll do it! LOL! Yeah, but, the rest of the aging carcass goes with it!
witabix Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I wonder what those younger women find attractive about the mature gents. I'm speaking of average people, not a young actress or Anna Nicole Smith with clear motives. I've never approached younger women. I don't think I've picked up on any signals from them. Of course I haven't been looking for those signals. I was never, and still am not good at picking up signals from women at all. Well Basic I had that convo just the other day, with a much younger woman, in her twenties. She came up to me and said "Now I've heard your single you are in trouble......" Was that a signal? I pointed out our age difference, she said she knows how old I am and she doesn't care, oh and i don't have a lot of money, or hair, or perfect vision, or a tan.... hang on.....was she actually talking to me? And JayKay I will add my thanks to Basic's for your wonderful comments, so nice to read. OMG 46 this year:(
cal gal Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 C = Lion I always love how you describe anything. It always seems so eloquent. Well, I am 44 and I have a date tonight with a gentleman who is 59.... The reason? He's exceedingly honest and kind. Sexy and doesn't look his age. He's intelligent and holds a great conversation. I've known him for years so it seems comfortable because the worries are less than a stranger... His attitude is of a much younger person. He hasn't been married for a lot of years and has never had kids, although he would have liked to. Am I crazy to go? We went a few weeks ago and had a lovely time...
Outcast Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 That which makes people 'old' IMHO is the state of their brains. If someone is still interested in the world and in doing things and keeping active and is not close-minded, that person will be forever young. There are a lot of people in their twenties whose minds are like steel traps - shut tight LOL. Those are the 'old' and boring people!
witabix Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 C = Lion I always love how you describe anything. It always seems so eloquent. Well, I am 44 and I have a date tonight with a gentleman who is 59.... The reason? He's exceedingly honest and kind. Sexy and doesn't look his age. He's intelligent and holds a great conversation. I've known him for years so it seems comfortable because the worries are less than a stranger... His attitude is of a much younger person. He hasn't been married for a lot of years and has never had kids, although he would have liked to. Am I crazy to go? We went a few weeks ago and had a lovely time... Go for it CG, have a really good time, have fun.
tinktronik Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Im 26 , with a 42 y/o man. I find in particular that I'm attracted to older men b/c I'm turned off by FAKE . It seems older men are done with a lot of the preening that goes on with guys my age.So you can get down to the true person in there much more efficiently. I also find that the older man has learned a lot of the "not to do " lessons from other women they have been with . They arent , for the most part, hanging around in bars anymore or hanging with the buddies every night . And for the most part have matured enough to be comfortable with who they are , good and not so good. And as awful as this minght sound , my mother -in-law is not living anymore so I dont have to impress the mother . That does sound awful . Well , thats just a few reasons.
alphamale Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Im 26 , with a 42 y/o man. I find in particular that I'm attracted to older men b/c I'm turned off by FAKE . It seems older men are done with a lot of the preening that goes on with guys my age.So you can get down to the true person in there much more efficiently. they also tend to have larger paychecks than their younger and more immature brethren.
tinktronik Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 they also tend to have larger paychecks than their younger and more immature brethren. True ....However I still make more money than him...lol.(:
Curmudgeon Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Fifty-nine is a great age. I'm very partial to it even though I'll be leaving it behind in a few months. Crazy? Not hardly. You had a lovely time, his age is only relative so long as he doesn't think old and you've known him for years which means there's likely already a level of trust there. That's what persuaded my wife to out with me after five years even though she had some major trust issues which had kept her single and uninvolved for almost 20. Go! Enjoy!
alphamale Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Fifty-nine is a great age. I'm very partial to it even though I'll be leaving it behind in a few months. a secret that is unknown to most younger people is that life usually gets better and better as you age. Sure, the body may not be the same as in youth but the mind flourishes and is more comfortable with itself. Older people are, in general, a happier lot than younger people who still have yet to "find themselves"...
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