pensive Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Hi All-- I'm trying to gather my own feelings on this and wanted to get other's experience (not just opinions) on this issue. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year and from the beginning I knew she was bisexual. Until recently, it was more novel as we would sometimes comment on attractive women we would see while out and about some of her friends she thought were hot. But now, she started seeing someone for a few weeks and it's the first "serious" situation with another woman. I'm re-examining how this might affect our relationship. I don't want an answer whether this is "right" or "wrong" or any other judgment calls because I'm not sure how I feel about it. Right now, we're in a long distance situation which only compounds the problem. I'm open minded, but I've never been in this type of a situation so I'm somewhat unaware of the pitfalls that might be ahead. I don't want to sit here and speculate on all my feelings, so anything anyone can share would be helpful.
whichwayisup Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I've never been in a situation like yours, but I will share my thoughts with you anyway... If you can handle sharing her and be open minded then it could work. But, if she still wants you as her boyfriend you two need to lay down some ground rules. Is this other woman she is seeing, serious? I mean, could it turn into an emotional relationship as well? Or is it just about sex. My worry for you is, she'll prefer being with women and want to end the relationship - and you'll end up with a broken heart. It could start off well, and who knows if it would turn into a threesome? Another thing to discuss with your girlfriend. And would that be a norm? Would she always 'be' with other women throughout your relationship or is this woman someone who has just caught her eye... I know I wouldn't want to share my partner with ANYBODY. I know I'd be jealous, hurt and feel insecure, and I'd feel like I would be in competition with someone else constantly and also worry about STD's. Good luck and keep posting.
7on Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 If she's bisexual I'd see this the same way as a heterosexual woman dating two guys at once. Personally I wouldn't stand for this. But that's just my view on things.
bluetuesday Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 her being bisexual has nothing to do with it. if you're in an exclusive relationship she is cheating on you. if you're in an open relationship, why does it matter if it's a woman? if your question is, 'is it less serious because it's a woman?' in my experience, no.
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