cal gal Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I am just having a huge mental block with the whole idea of how dating goes now. It seems like it is so much different than years ago and I could use some advice on where to start......
Curmudgeon Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 It seems like it is so much different than years ago. I was scared to death at the thought of dating again in the mid-90s when I hadn't done so since the 60s. Where to start? Where to start? It seemed that a number of people I knew had friends who they said, "would just love to meet you." A number of single/divorced women at work in my general age group (and a few younger) suddenly seemed very interested when the word got out that I was divorcing. However, almost all of them came across as needy and that was very off-putting. One thing I knew was that if I was ever going to date, and I waited two years before even attempting it, it was going to be someone right around my own age. I wanted to be with someone who'd shared my era(s), the music, the social issues, the history, the traditions. I did nothing special to meet new people although I travelled a lot in my work and gave a lot of public presentations, did some television interviews, was a guest, educational speaker at a number of conventions, testified a lot before our legislature, etc., so meeting people was a constant. One day it all simply seemed to fall into place and I asked a friend and former coworker out for a "safe" little day trip to share a meal at the beach. She was one of the few "available" women I knew who didn't make a big deal about my availability and I respected, admired and trusted her and had for five years. That was all it took. As we're fond of saying, neither of us planned to end up together because if we had we'd have messed it up!
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