Raven1845 Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Hopefully, I'll get a Caliguy response on this one. I just changed my phone numbers. I will also be moving back to my home state. The only thing that will remain the same is my email address. My question . . . and I know I shouldn't care, but I do . . . If he does end up regretting losing me, now that I've changed my numbers and will be changing my address, how will I know? If he did want to contact me, would he find a way? Or maybe send an email (he NEVER really uses email and has probably deleted my email address).
fooled Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 You are not changing your number to make him come back - you are doing it to keep him out of your life so you can heal. So you can find someone who is right for you - better for you than your ex.
Author Raven1845 Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 He knows your friend. Ariadne (((Ariadne))) Nice to "see" you. I didn't give her my number. I'm not ready. She reminds me of him. I'm trying to stay away from everything that reminds me of him. I feel bad doing that to my friend, but I think it's best for me.
Author Raven1845 Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 You are not changing your number to make him come back - you are doing it to keep him out of your life so you can heal. So you can find someone who is right for you - better for you than your ex. Thank you, fooled. I know you're right. I guess I'm still at the point of hoping he'll want me again. I wish I wasn't. I wish I didn't care. I will be so glad when I don't. I fear wanting him will never go away, but it has to.
Ariadne Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Hey, I didn't give her my number. I'm not ready. She reminds me of him. ROFL Ariadne Ps: Nice to see you too
Author Raven1845 Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 Hey, I didn't give her my number. I'm not ready. She reminds me of him. ROFL Ariadne Ps: Nice to see you too Haha . . . I meant that being around her reminds me of him. I don't have the hots for her or anything. Though, she'd probably be a lot more faithful . . .
fooled Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 (((Ariadne))) Nice to "see" you. I didn't give her my number. I'm not ready. She reminds me of him. I'm trying to stay away from everything that reminds me of him. I feel bad doing that to my friend, but I think it's best for me. The night I broke up with her, I called all of our mutual friends and told them I wouldn't be in touch for a while. Not that I didn't love them or think of them, but I just need to distance myself right now and I'll be back in touch when I'm strong enough.
Author Raven1845 Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 The night I broke up with her, I called all of our mutual friends and told them I wouldn't be in touch for a while. Not that I didn't love them or think of them, but I just need to distance myself right now and I'll be back in touch when I'm strong enough. Were they understanding, fooled? So, you'd agree that what I'm doing by distancing myself from our mutual friends is a good idea for me? It's just, every time I'm with her, he is on my mind even more.
fooled Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 They were very understanding - of course, I was bawling like a 2 year old. They could hear the pain in my voice. Just explain it to her like I did - if she does not understand, she is not a true friend. You are doing the right thing, Raven.
CaliGuy Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Why are you changing your number and moving? If it's to forget him then let him go! Forget about him wanting you back. If you really want him back and he has your email address, he knows how to find you. My question is: "Do you still want him back?" Whatever you decide to do, if you've implemented NC to get him back, that's the wrong reason. Do it for yourself, to heal, to let go and move on. Dont' do it clinging to the hope he'll want you back. It will impede your healing.
Author Raven1845 Posted March 2, 2006 Author Posted March 2, 2006 Why are you changing your number and moving? If it's to forget him then let him go! Forget about him wanting you back. If you really want him back and he has your email address, he knows how to find you. My question is: "Do you still want him back?" Whatever you decide to do, if you've implemented NC to get him back, that's the wrong reason. Do it for yourself, to heal, to let go and move on. Dont' do it clinging to the hope he'll want you back. It will impede your healing. Thanks, CaliGuy. I'm actually moving back to my home city. I was transferred down here and I've wanted to go back home since the day I got here. It will be easier for me to forget him, but that's not why I'm moving. I know it probably doesn't make any sense, but I want him to regret losing me. I don't want him back . . . he's a horrible person. I just want him to feel what he made me feel. I know it's probably not healthy for me to keep hoping he regrets it one day, but I'm having trouble letting that go. I know I should and I'm trying. It's just really difficult. I've humiliated myself enough with him. NC is for me to heal, not to get him back. I just want to one day have the opportunity to tell him "no thanks." I hope that way of thinking goes away, too.
CaliGuy Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 I just want to one day have the opportunity to tell him "no thanks." I hope that way of thinking goes away, too. The day you are striving for is when you have LET GO to the point you don't care anymore about telling him no thanks, or even him in general. See, you're still focused on your pain to the point he still has control over you and your feelings. When you truly let go you won't even feel the need to say anything to him anymore.
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