Found out my boyfriend has a sexually trans disease & didn't tell me. What now? !!!!

[SurfGirl42]

[FONT=Arial]I seem to have found myself in a very awkward situation. I am 25 and the guy that I have been seeing for about 3 months now is 29. We have a great relationship, he makes me happy, and he has even told me that I am the woman he wants to marry (the feeling is mutual). I'm happier then I have ever been before.[/FONT]

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[FONT=Arial]The other morning I was at his place after he had gone to work and I was still in bed. I needed a Kleenex and I knew he had some in the nightstand as he had gotten some for me from there before. I reached under a white paper bag to get the kleenex and when I did the bag fell on it's side and the contents fell out. I feel the need to clarify that I was NOT snooping (although I know the situation looks shady). What concerned me was that the contents of the bag included 4 condoms and a container of cream used to treat genital warts. It was a prescription dated from 12/04. I put it all back and now I don't know how to handle this. [/FONT]

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[FONT=Arial]Before he and I became intimate we had a discussion about our sexual health and he informed me that he was clean and healthy, as am I. This fact in addition to us both agreeing to be exclusive and monogamous, we decided to not use condoms (I am on birth control). [/FONT]

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[FONT=Arial]Is it possible he has been cured and no longer has it? I was under the impression that this STD was a permanent thing.[/FONT]

 

 

[FONT=Arial]What do I do now? How do I approach him?[/FONT]

[Guest for a minute]

#1. I think its herpes that is permanent.

 

#2. Go get checked.

 

#3. If you are having sex with him surely you can speak with him about an STD. matter of fact start the conversation that way..."If we were having a problem with yours/my sexual performance we could talk about that right?"

 

if he says yes ( and he will) say something to the effect that you saw this laying on the floor and you are concerned about because you care for him and if he had something like that you guys will be swapping it back and forth...in your own words of course.

 

I started a conversation w/ a BF years ago because he smelled of course to begin with I acted like I was the one who smelled. MEN!!!!

[Guest]

Do a search using the term HPV for genital warts. I know that ignorance is a big problem when it comes to STD's so do yourself a favor and learn all you can before you confront your boyfriend.

[ponder24]

The HPV virusonce contracted never leaves the body. The lesion or wart can at some point go away, BUT the virus does not. Some people have a built up immunity to warts,,and even if exposed will not contract, however most do not. Beware the HPV virus in women is linked to an increased risk of cervical cancer. You should ask him straight up if he has ever had warts on his genitals. If you have already had sex w him you may have already been exposed and contracted. Your next pap smear they can test for it....otherwise wear condoms, condoms, condoms!!

[blind_otter]

The HPV virusonce contracted never leaves the body. The lesion or wart can at some point go away, BUT the virus does not. Some people have a built up immunity to warts,,and even if exposed will not contract, however most do not. Beware the HPV virus in women is linked to an increased risk of cervical cancer. You should ask him straight up if he has ever had warts on his genitals. If you have already had sex w him you may have already been exposed and contracted. Your next pap smear they can test for it....otherwise wear condoms, condoms, condoms!!

 

I've said it once, I'll say it again.

 

CONDOMS DO NOT PROTECT AGAINST GENTIAL WARTS.

 

The virus hangs out in the hair follicle. On the nuts. Or labia. Which aren't covered by the condom.

 

I contracted HPV when I was 20 and had to have part of my cervix removed.

[roxy_1980]

Cervical cancer is not the only problem with HPV. If it migrates up the fallopian tubes it causes sterility in women. GET THE TEST now. For that matter, a full STD screening is probably in order.

[TeaCooler]

The HPV virusonce contracted never leaves the body.

 

that's incorrect. 70-90% (depending on the study, it can be less or more) of people with hpv may clear the virus from the body within two years of infection. they can, however, be re-infected.

 

in any case, it's skin-to-skin contact that causes it, not bodily fluids...so be choosy and careful...cause skin is everywhere...

[whichwayisup]

He is a s*** for doing that to you. Herpes is forever and please go get tested!

 

He owed you that honesty and didn't tell you or give you the choice to be with him. He made that choice for you and now possibly has given you a gift to remember him always!

 

If you love him, work it out but if the relationship is still new, I'd seriously consider dumping him. How can you trust him when he put YOUR LIFE at risk? WTF. Selfish....

[Art_Critic]

We have a great relationship

 

............. Get tested

 

You might want to rethink this relationship and consider him an EX..

 

What an ass