shellbelle Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 I'm confused and need advice. I have been going out with this guy for 3 months, we get on really well and when we are together I feel realy comfortable. He is the kindest most caring guy I've been with and I have never felt so comfortable with someone even intimately and we have fun together. I told him the other day that I was not sure about us. Obviously he asked me why and the only answer I could give him was that I was basing it on 'gut feeling and intuition'. Am i being fair to him, I am finding this hard and do not know what this feeling is based on. What should I do? Am I stupid basing splitting up just on my gut feeling and intuition?
Barby Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Could it be that you're scared of this new found closeness? Is your intution going into overdrive for fear of being hurt deeply now that you've opened yourself up to someone more apparently than you have previously? I ask you this......if you feel this way about him and he isn't treating you badly or giving you a reason to doubt "him" then are you really prepared to end the relationship.....would you wonder in the future...."what if my gut was wrong?" Just a thought.......
SoleMate Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Welllll.......you really don't have to have a reason to break up. There is no law, and really very few actual customs or expectations, that say you MUST have a valid, concrete reason for stopping seeing someone. Just your slight preference is PLENTY. You've only been fooling around a short wile. You're not married. Either of you can ethically make the choice to move on at any time, and it's important to realize that. What I don't get is why you are so uncertain. Do you truly enjoy the time you spend with him? Or do you just think you should enjoy it? Is there something that clouds your thoughts about him? Are you afraid of getting hurt? The reason I know I want to be with my bf is that I always enjoy being with him. It doesn't occur to me to want to separate from him, because I am happier when we are close.
Dinnj1 Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 we get on really well and when we are together I feel realy comfortable. He is the kindest most caring guy I've been with and I have never felt so comfortable with someone even intimately and we have fun together. Yes, he sounds like a real loser and totally makes you unhappy. So go with it, let fear of what could be, lead you far away from him and risk loosing what could be something great. Go ahead and blindside the poor sap with a breakup caused by gut/intuition feelings. Then use those same feelings to pick the winning #'s for the Powerball lottery. Split half with me as payment for teaching you how to put those gut and intuition feelings to good use. Sorry for being sarcastic in my answer, but I'm trying to put your situation into perspective from a different view. Hey, that's why we're all here... different opinions right? It's funny to read, he makes me happy and dump him in the same sentence. Honestly, I've been there... the feeling. The feelings of not knowing where it could end up... the feeling of traveling down a road, coming to a turn, and NOT knowing what's around the corner. It's scary, but how will you ever find out if you don't step on the gas and hold on!?!? It's a relationship, some work, some don't... my question is... why end it if it isn't broken? Don't be afraid of what could/might happen, cause you might be missing out on something great and hurting someone very special at the same time. G'luck. hmmm, but then again... there is obviously something you DON'T like about him or else you wouldn't have ended up here asking for advice... so now, I'm at a loss.
RubixCube28 Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Yeah some things prob going on that she dosen't want to talk about.. Or maybe even dosen't realise her self with him.. Then again it could be like the others have said she's afraid of the unknowen.. Who knowes maybe she's afraid to be happy.. Due to past life experances dosen't think she deserves to be happy.. So she's subconshisly sabotageing it.. Who know maybe he has bad breath and never showers lol..Any ways why don't you give the guy some time and see what he's all about.. I have seen girls dump genualy nice guys.. Only to end up going with a real loser and then they really have probs.. So I dunno I guess do what feels best for you.. But why dump a guy that seams to make you happy.. It's kinda like girls want the "nice guys" as friends ignore them any other way.. Get into crapy relashionships with morron one track minded men.. Then when they end up being cheated on or abused or what ever.. The case may be they go " Oh were are all the nice sweet guys" Lmao... Go figure..
darianngracie Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 omg i am goin through the same thing me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months and he is the greatest and i love him soooo much and feel comfartable with him too, but i have thta gut feeling to tellin me what i should and shouldnt do cause i have gone and screwed up this relationship so many times by putting him through this pain cause i know he loves me and i love him but like i said i have this gut feeling saying that i should break up with him cause i dont want to hurt him again and break his heart but omg i dont know what too do cause I REALLY LOVE HIM!!!!!! !!!HELP ME!!!
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