blue16 Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 What do you do with a friend who's just being a jerk/a**h***? It's gotten to the point where I don't even want to be around him anymore. He is in our friends circle, unfortunately. Everything he does it's like it's some personal competition against me. Playing any kind of game, he'll try his hardest to beat me - but doesn't really care he how does as long as he is ahead of me. Every single chance he gets he finds some way to make fun of me. And it's not done in what I would call a lighthearted way. He'll either make a mean spirited joke, or just outright insult me. My other friends rarely (if ever) laugh at these attempts and I don't find them humerous at all either. If I try to defend myself then he'll come right back. Of course, now and then an insult is done in an obviously joking manner and is humerous, but 90% of the time it's just not nice. Me and my other friends make fun of each other occasionally in a playful manner, but it's done in a light hearted way and theres never any nerves hit. And tonight even one of my other friends got pissed off at him. He was being an a**h***, and my other friend flipped out and swore at him. Just to give an example, let's say I did really well in a class and got an A+, everyone would be like "oh nice job/that's great etc." He would be the one person that would say "oh you prolly only got an A+ because you studied 24/7" or something along those lines. Maybe he is joking, but the point is that it's not done in a very tactful way (imo) and theres always a negative attitude toward it. Lately I've been trying to ignore these comments as much as possible. If he insults me I just ignore the remark. Of course, sometimes I can't help but acknowledge it because it does strike a nerve - and I forget I shouldn't even be responding. But I'm just doing the best I can. Hopefully if I continue to ignore him he'll get the hint.
Outcast Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 It sounds as though your other friends are getting sick of him, too. I expect you'll all end up 'just ignoring him' and quit inviting him to join you when you go out together.
nogames Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 I know exactly how you feel...I would talk to him and ask him what his problem is and see if you can resolve anything. If he doesn't want to or is nasty then he isn't needed in your life, forgive and forget him and move on, some people really aren't worth your time and energy especially those that don't know how to communicate properly or spread malicious gossip about you. People that do this I have learnt, is because they aren't happy with there lives and insecure so they set out to make your life a misery to themselves feel better which is just so stupid. I understand why people go on mass rampages and kill a lot of people, I don't by any means condone it, i think it's so sad and tragic when people do things like that, but from what I have been through in the past few months, I can understand why people just snap. I hope this loser grows up and is nice to you otherwise issue him with see ya loser papers. good luck
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