blind_otter Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Wow, being an OW is the same thing as being in an abusive relationship? What, are you being threatened with physical violence or death if you leave the relationship? Will your MM continue stalking you and try to kill your friends and family for helping you? Do you get physically beaten or intimidated so often that you are afraid to leave the MM?
newbby Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Wow, being an OW is the same thing as being in an abusive relationship? What, are you being threatened with physical violence or death if you leave the relationship? Will your MM continue stalking you and try to kill your friends and family for helping you? Do you get physically beaten or intimidated so often that you are afraid to leave the MM? no it is not. not what i was saying, and neither are those my beliefs. it would be insulting if they were though, wouldnt it.
RecordProducer Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 or they truly have stumbled upon true love with the right man for them, (it does happen).It probably happens too often or otherwise it wouldn't be such a big deal for them to leave. There are huge age differences in many cases so the woman is too young and still flies with her mind, while the man has been through a lot and values money and children more than love or sex. Especially since he can get it all. Sometimes the woman is older and mature, has had bad experiences with men, then she meets this great guy and believes that if she dumps him, she will never meet a good man like him. All OW claim that it just happened to them. In many cases it even happens against their will. They see this MM often at work, they do all kinds of harmless things like talk, flirt, drink coffee together. It's fun for both of them and they believe they are doing nothing wrong. Then the OW starts thinking about him too often and finally can't resist his courting, compliments, lies that he intends to divorce his terrible wife, etc. I believe that the MM starts the affair with the sole intention of having good sex on aside. I think all men start dating with those thoughts: I want to sleep with her and let's see what happens next... Perhaps I fall in love with her later. As a matter of fact, I will start a new thread with this question so let's see what they say. (I better be wrong or many women will be sooooo disappointed! ) Anyway, I can't think of an affair and not have the feeling that the OW settles for less. They say the more we have the more we want, but I also believe that the less we have the more we settle for too little. The OW first wants to play only, then she wants his love but only gets to share him so she is happy to get whatever he gives her... So she wants more and more but gets less and less so she settles for less and less... She settles for being in a relationship with a MM and wait for years for him to marry her instead of having a normal relationship and family. I think "too much pride" is not nowadays' disease; it's rather the "too little pride" syndrome.
Chump64 Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 In our situation, my (cheating) husband told me that he and the OW never planned to leave their spouses / never considered marriage with each other. He said if she'd wanted that, he'd have ended the affair, and the fact that things were so non-commital was attractive / accounted (partly) for the longevity of the affair.
RecordProducer Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 In our situation, my (cheating) husband told me that he and the OW never planned to leave their spouses They are both married so it's quite different from when only the man is married. So did her husband find out about the affair? If yes, do you know how he reacted?
Chump64 Posted March 2, 2006 Posted March 2, 2006 He found out because I told her I'd let him know if she didn't, and I followed up by sending him a letter at his work address. He emailed me to thank me and of course, was devastated. I haven't kept in touch with him since.
elmejor Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 He found out because I told her I'd let him know if she didn't, and I followed up by sending him a letter at his work address. He emailed me to thank me and of course, was devastated. I haven't kept in touch with him since. But have you considered "touching" him? Out of curiousity, or you know like a "revenge f^*k?" For the two of you to "help" each other get through the ordeal with your cheating spouses? I have to wonder this Chump, considering how you analyze everything, look at all angles, which is always a good idea, so I have to wonder---but in a most respectful way--- if you've considered this...
Chump64 Posted March 3, 2006 Posted March 3, 2006 Yes Elmejor, we had amazing sex in every possible orifice. We are meeting for nooners 3X per week to help each other "heal." Because dysfunction + dysfunction = cure, you know.
elmejor Posted March 4, 2006 Posted March 4, 2006 Yes Elmejor, we had amazing sex in every possible orifice. We are meeting for nooners 3X per week to help each other "heal." Because dysfunction + dysfunction = cure, you know. Don't scoff so quickly, Im sure the words your H and his lover use to describe the sex they have do not include the word "dysfunction." In my humble opinion. But thanks again, Chump for your insightful viewpoints in yet another OW thread.
Chump64 Posted March 4, 2006 Posted March 4, 2006 You are so right, once again! They said their sex was awesome. They f*cked like wild animals, in every possible position and in every room in both houses. And cars. And in office, as a matter of fact. I'm not scoffing! I just sucked his c*ck and balls this morning (the OW's huband's that is) as a matter of fact! And he had an enormous load, let me tell ya.
erika2610 Posted March 4, 2006 Posted March 4, 2006 You are so right, once again! They said their sex was awesome. They f*cked like wild animals, in every possible position and in every room in both houses. And cars. And in office, as a matter of fact. I'm not scoffing! I just sucked his c*ck and balls this morning (the OW's huband's that is) as a matter of fact! And he had an enormous load, let me tell ya. That was uncalled for. I'm gonna report BOTH of you if you don't both knock it off. It's doing no good going back and forth at all. You're both just hijacking threads now..
elmejor Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 That was uncalled for. I'm gonna report BOTH of you if you don't both knock it off. It's doing no good going back and forth at all. You're both just hijacking threads now.. Well, Erika I'm going to report you for reporting two posters who are at least still talking about the subject of the thread, which is sex between the involved parties. That's more than I can say for you, who has now veered off the subject of the thread. Why don't you go and talk to Lishy for awhile? Honestly...
scarletletter Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 Honestly, you ladies need to stop bickering and throwing shots at each other. This is really getting out of hand and sooooo dreadfully boring. Why don't you all PM each other so others can read the posts without having to witness the cat fights in between? Nothing wrong with a little constructive criticism, but COME ON!!!
erika2610 Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 Honestly, you ladies need to stop bickering and throwing shots at each other. This is really getting out of hand and sooooo dreadfully boring. Why don't you all PM each other so others can read the posts without having to witness the cat fights in between? Nothing wrong with a little constructive criticism, but COME ON!!! I'm done here anyways. I apologize to anybody who I annoyed All I was trying to do was to get people to stop arguing, and in the process got caught up in it myself.
rossi Posted March 5, 2006 Posted March 5, 2006 I would like to know if any of you make anal sex with your MM. I aske this Q, because last nigth i was having sex with my husband and he tried to make it to me, i may be wrong, but i think he did it with the OW, we never tried before, but i'm just curious to know if it happened to any of you.
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