MM gives ring for V day...not impressed.

[whichwayisup]

Yes I have met his MOTHER AND FATHER...in fact we went out of town together for the weekend to see his little brother play basketball.

 

His best friend came and picked me up to go out of town for my birthday AS A SURPISE to me. We all went out of town for the weekend. His best friend and girlfriend was like I heard so much about you.

 

When his friends from California flew in, he brought them over to my house to me.

 

He brings his kids over to hang out and play. They like being with me.

 

Christmas and Thanksgiving,,,my man was there. He brought me and the kids gifts and came over.

 

Thanksgiving he came over and hung out with me and my family for a while.

 

When he is sick...he stays in the bed so that is that but he calls me and tells me how he is doing.

 

What else do you want to know?

 

So what you're saying is, his friends that you've met, his parents and his kids are all part of hiding the fact that they know about you two - A big lie - To his WIFE??? His own parents don't have a problem with this? They don't see YOU as a threat to THEIR son's marriage? They honestly "know" you two are a couple and they're OK with the fact their son has a WIFE too?? Wow!!!!!!!! Your MM is a lucky man to have such loving and supportive people around him, to protect him and let him have his cake and eat it too. I'm utterly blown away that his CHILDREN don't take issue that you're with THEIR father.

 

You know best as it's your life, not mine...

[JayKay]

9Lives

 

You posted here with a query and aside from one or two snarky comments, the posters here did a great job of providing insight and in-depth analyses of why the gift left a bad taste in your mouth

 

 

Now you're bitch-slapping everyone and stamping off in a huff.

 

This comment really made me laugh...

 

I dont have to PRETEND I like anything okay.. If I dont like it....I DONT HAVE TO LIKE IT. What is wrong with you guys? I guess you wanted me to bounce off the wall. I was more excited when he gave me 2500.00 dollars.

 

 

You sound like a little girl who didn't get the Barbie Dream House she wanted for Xmas.

 

Look, you're playing a pretty serious game here with a married man.

 

Like it or not, gifts are often a fair representation of what the relationship 'means' to one or the other person.

 

If everything was hokey-dokey, you'd probably just shrug and say, "Eh, his taste isn't the same as my taste"

But here you are posting your irritation and upset on the internet. In a lot of CAPS for that matter.

 

Don't you think that indicates something a little deeper than, say, not liking his taste in gifts?

 

When my BF gave me an aquamarine bracelet for my birthday (totally not my taste, didn't like it) I wasn't in a quandry about what to 'do' about it.

 

9Lives, I'd re-read some of the advice offered to you and think it over.

[9Lives]

Wow, one rant about a ring and look where it's got you!

There is a saying, it's something about not looking at given horse's teeth.

 

Just my opinion - people who truly believe in what they say don't feel the need to defend themselves.

 

I feel like I there are some people that are over analyzing....over reacting...and personalizing the whole situation. I only told them I did not like the ring. Now you have crazy people giving it meaning and all this other stuff. It is so silly to be upset because I did not like a "ring".

[9Lives]

So what you're saying is, his friends that you've met, his parents and his kids are all part of hiding the fact that they know about you two - A big lie - To his WIFE??? His own parents don't have a problem with this? They don't see YOU as a threat to THEIR son's marriage? They honestly "know" you two are a couple and they're OK with the fact their son has a WIFE too?? Wow!!!!!!!! Your MM is a lucky man to have such loving and supportive people around him, to protect him and let him have his cake and eat it too. I'm utterly blown away that his CHILDREN don't take issue that you're with THEIR father.

 

You know best as it's your life, not mine...

 

Baby, his wife aint all that. I cant tell he married half the time. If I call him and I am stuck on the side of the road at 2am in the morning...he will come get me. I know he will but I would not put him in that situation.

[9Lives]

So what you're saying is, his friends that you've met, his parents and his kids are all part of hiding the fact that they know about you two - A big lie - To his WIFE??? His own parents don't have a problem with this? They don't see YOU as a threat to THEIR son's marriage? They honestly "know" you two are a couple and they're OK with the fact their son has a WIFE too?? Wow!!!!!!!! Your MM is a lucky man to have such loving and supportive people around him, to protect him and let him have his cake and eat it too. I'm utterly blown away that his CHILDREN don't take issue that you're with THEIR father.

 

You know best as it's your life, not mine...

 

Yes, I have met his best friends, his favorite cousins, his two children. They all know about me. I am not tucked away in a corner waiting for his call.

We have started a business together and working on another one. Pretty soon we are going to Las Vegas for the weekend. We do things because for one I dont act like the ow. I tell him what I want and expect. Not to sound demanding but I know what I want and I ASK FOR IT. What is wrong with that?

 

I know some of you are so blown away with my attitude but I have tried to break up with this man several times and he doesnt want to leave me alone. I really dont want to leave him alone either so I feel like it you want me to stay....then do things to keep me around. He does them. It is a win-win. If we break up today, I have gain sooooooo much. I really have. I may not wind up with him but I have no regrets. It has been good.

[9Lives]

9Lives

 

You posted here with a query and aside from one or two snarky comments, the posters here did a great job of providing insight and in-depth analyses of why the gift left a bad taste in your mouth

 

 

Now you're bitch-slapping everyone and stamping off in a huff.

 

This comment really made me laugh...

 

I dont have to PRETEND I like anything okay.. If I dont like it....I DONT HAVE TO LIKE IT. What is wrong with you guys? I guess you wanted me to bounce off the wall. I was more excited when he gave me 2500.00 dollars.

 

 

You sound like a little girl who didn't get the Barbie Dream House she wanted for Xmas.

 

Look, you're playing a pretty serious game here with a married man.

 

Like it or not, gifts are often a fair representation of what the relationship 'means' to one or the other person.

 

If everything was hokey-dokey, you'd probably just shrug and say, "Eh, his taste isn't the same as my taste"

But here you are posting your irritation and upset on the internet. In a lot of CAPS for that matter.

 

Don't you think that indicates something a little deeper than, say, not liking his taste in gifts?

 

When my BF gave me an aquamarine bracelet for my birthday (totally not my taste, didn't like it) I wasn't in a quandry about what to 'do' about it.

 

9Lives, I'd re-read some of the advice offered to you and think it over.

 

OVER ANALYZING...OVER ANALYZING...OVER ANALYZING.....This is ridiculous.

I was not all emotional about it. I just told you I did not really like the diamonds. Yall are really tripping out. But that is how women are.

[crazy_grl]

I feel like I there are some people that are over analyzing....over reacting...and personalizing the whole situation. I only told them I did not like the ring. Now you have crazy people giving it meaning and all this other stuff. It is so silly to be upset because I did not like a "ring".

 

If this isn't a big deal and everything's so great between you and your man, why did you post? People are "over analyzing" and "over reacting" because they all know that we've all gotten gifts we don't like, but we don't go seeking advice on what "to do" about it if that's all there is to it.

 

If what you're saying is true and that there's nothing more to it than because you don't like small diamonds, then you sound like a childish, gold-digging selfish woman. I think people "over anaylized" because they gave you more credit than that.

[scarletletter]

9 lives...clearly you are taking a beating here.....and for what reason? Because you spoke your feelings. I, too was a bit preturbed at the way you put it in your first post. Just forget about it...it's not worth fighting with all these women over it. If you don't like the ring, don't wear it. I think it was just the way you presented yourself at first. I'm telling you that if any BS's in this room get a hold of you, they will tell you what they think. Just move on and don't let it get to you. If it were me...I would still wear the ring proudly..that's just me.

[9Lives]

If this isn't a big deal and everything's so great between you and your man, why did you post? People are "over analyzing" and "over reacting" because they all know that we've all gotten gifts we don't like, but we don't go seeking advice on what "to do" about it if that's all there is to it.

 

If what you're saying is true and that there's nothing more to it than because you don't like small diamonds, then you sound like a childish, gold-digging selfish woman. I think people "over anaylized" because they gave you more credit than that.

 

I did not ask ANYONE what to do about it. What are you talking about. I was just sharing my valentine gift with you all.

 

NOW....I am a gold digger....how am I a gold digger...because I dont like little diamonds? That sounds stupid.

 

How am I selfish?

[9Lives]

9 lives...clearly you are taking a beating here.....and for what reason? Because you spoke your feelings. I, too was a bit preturbed at the way you put it in your first post. Just forget about it...it's not worth fighting with all these women over it. If you don't like the ring, don't wear it. I think it was just the way you presented yourself at first. I'm telling you that if any BS's in this room get a hold of you, they will tell you what they think. Just move on and don't let it get to you. If it were me...I would still wear the ring proudly..that's just me.

 

scarletletter,

You are right. All I did was SPEAK MY FEELINGS. Then all these people added more to WHY, WHY, WHY I did not like the ring. It couldnt be for the reason I said....I had to mean this or that....I am amazed!!!

 

Yes, I will wear the ring. I will definately do that.

[JayKay]

OVER ANALYZING...OVER ANALYZING...OVER ANALYZING.....This is ridiculous.

I was not all emotional about it. I just told you I did not really like the diamonds. Yall are really tripping out. But that is how women are.

 

 

Y'all? Y'all?

 

Where are you from, Texas?

 

 

Like I said. You posted on an internet forum. You got responses.

What did you expect people to do?

Say, "Oh wow. Sorry you got a little diamond. Hugs!"

 

Please.

 

YOU are the one tripping out because some people gave you some stuff to think about.

 

You just don't want to get deep. You want to ride the shallow wave. That's cool baby.

 

If it wasn't a big deal you'd have a much calmer approach.

[lovernotafighter]

I read many posts on this thread...my only hope is 9L that after the coolness wears off in your A that you don't find yourself in a world of pain like me and my MM.

 

taking the A with a grain of salt is actually the best thing to do,to spare you the suffering later on...good luck

[Seen_It_All]

You say you don't like little diamonds and you wrinkle your nose, then you spend 6 more pages defending the guy.

 

Yes, he's a prince amongst men, indeed.

 

The next time I'm looking for a crack-of-dawn quickie by someone ELSE'S husband, I'll be sure to trawl the chatrooms for married men looking for sex. They're a dime a dozen.

 

You said you COULD call him at 2:00 am to come help you if you were stranded because you KNOW he'd leave wifey's bed - yet you 'won't put him to the test.'

 

Snort.

 

Please, PUT him to the test. I'd love to see how he wiggles out of your phone call and pretends you're a wrong number when his wife wakes up and asks him who he's talking to at that ungodly hour. You'll be reduced to a wrong number or a crackpot caller in 3.5 seconds flat.

 

Finally, you claim to know an awful lot about the REAL state of his marriage. Do you live with them? Sleep in their bed every night with them? Until you do, honey, you DON'T know all the intimate details. Trust me. You don't.