Fallen_Angel Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 I swear, whenever I think of my ex anymore I DO get nauseous. I have to think about it, cry and just let it out before the thought passes (like right now, for example)... It's been 5 months since we last spoke, and about 2 months since the last time I tried to contact him. So overall I'm slowly moving forward...but right now I'm simply arrested with horrid thoughts - namely, since he has made NO effort to contact me, it's like we never happened! Like I never existed! Like I never meant ANYTHING to him!!! (As I said, I just needed to get this out. So thanks...)
pandnh4 Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 hey fallen_angel... i feel the same way as you but i'm only at 2 weeks and i feel like i'm getting worse... it pains me to think that in perhaps in 5 months i might still be feeling this much sadness and anxiety... god, i don't even know how i'll handle once she starts seeing someone else cause she's moving on quicker... i don't even want to know but i would rather she just didn't move on either... i still wish she missed me and loved me and it's upsetting to not hear from her anymore, even though i initiated nc... like we never existed, as you said... =( i hope you feel better though; i went through this last year and it did get better, but only once another young lady and then my current ex started showing interest in me...
TheDonald Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Hi Angel... I'm riding on a 4 month breakup from a year and a half relationship with no contact since the break. I know exactly how your feeling because I'm going through the same thing. My Ex has made no effort to contact me and I'm left with nothing but questions and pain. When I can keep my mind occupied, it's not so bad, it's when there's nothing left to do in the day but sleep that scares me. I often wonder how much I truely meant to my ex. I hope you can find peace because it continues to elude me. Best Wishes.
bendit Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 You don't realize this but you've been blessed that he is leaving you alone. Its sounds like if he didn't, you'd be in this dysfunctional netherland that so many of fall into After the breakup. Use this opportunity to learn why you were drawn to him and why its been so tough leaving him in the past and moving on. Good luck. regards
sick of it Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 bendit it right. ive been NC for 2 months and out of the blue she left me a voicemail. i was finally getting drastically better and now im back to thinking about her. youre left with the last thing you know, and if you dont know anything, thats the best case. you meant to him what he meant to you. thats what you need to think. convince yourself and let it go. easier said than done. but dont wish for contact until youll be ready for it.
Author Fallen_Angel Posted February 24, 2006 Author Posted February 24, 2006 Thanks guys. I've read so many great threads on here (like No Foolin's No Contact thread - a must read!) and for the most part I'm okay. In fact I KNOW I'm better off not hearing from him. But sometimes it still really hurts. I was silly enough to believe him when he said he wanted to stay friends, even though I knew deep down it would be impossible. And I wonder just how he can go from talking to me every single day to absolutely no contact whatsoever. It's just strange, you know?
pandnh4 Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 yeah, staying friends is pretty much impossible if one person still has feelings, and more often than not, that is the case... it's just a recipe for disaster or more heartbreak... especially when another person comes along in their life... it is indeed hard going from daily conversations to none at all... having to stick to nc when you're hurting really bad... perhaps even more upsetting is realizing that they can do it too, like they just don't care and easily drop you like a rock... i often wonder if me enforcing nc on my side turned my ex off from trying to be friends... that maybe she would've come back if i had shown her that i still cared... which i do, just not showing it because i'm hurting... =(
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